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maddie
January 2nd, 2009, 09:48 PM
When I was little, I dreamed about my teacher and saw her face with hearts around it at night. (we never kissed, just kind of in a big sis way)

When I was in 6th grade I dreamed about my teacher and I spinning around in circles (in a sisterly way)

I have always liked guys, ever since I was in kindergarten. But now, I am having feelings for women. Every girl I see I see myself licking their boobs and kissing them. I don't even know if I like these fantasies, but I have been having them every day, ever since one of my friends said I was lesbo. I wanted to kiss that friend, but never told her. Now I don't want 2 anymore

I still get attracted to some guys sometimes. I don't know why, but I feel as if I am losing my straightness. I can't stop the fantasies, and they are making me sad, confused, and even depressed. I didn't think i was a lesbian before, but now after my friend said that, these fantasies started. I don't think I'm a lesbian, but I've been having these feelings and even considered lesbian life or getting a sex change. I really love being a girl though. I also have recently been relating to guys more.

Help!

What am I?

How can I move on?

I'm still going through puberty so could hormones be doing this. I don't even know if I'm attracted to the penis or not.

This has caused me to be depressed. Suicidal thoughts, help!

Camazotz
January 2nd, 2009, 09:55 PM
I think you are making too big a deal of this. You should not consider a sex change. You should set a quiet time to just relax so you can think of whether you like men or women. It's definitely hormones, and you are probably just curious. But, it's also possible that you're bisexual. And it's also possible that you're a lesbian. Only you will know what you are. In time, your hormones will slow down, and you will be able to tell what your sexuality is.

Hope I could help.

byee
January 2nd, 2009, 10:18 PM
Well, first off, if you're depressed or suicidal over this (or anything else), it's probably a sign that you need to talk with someone real time. Without going into details, you should tell someone who can get you to a therapist. Your parents, maybe the guidance counsellor. Again, you needn't go into detail, other than to say that you are depressed and overwhelmed and need someone to talk with.

I think the dreams about teachers when you were young are not to worry about. teachers have a huge role in our lives, other than our parents, they're the adults we spend the most time with, and have the most influence over us, emotionally as well as academically. Having warm, loving feelings towards them is not indicative of anything other than the fact that they probably were important people to you, who you cared for.

The stuff you're experiencing now doesn't seem to be related to those earlier dreams. Puberty is pretty crazy, those hormones are really distracting, and all the intense feelings and urges and thoughts, many of them sexual, can be overwhelming, frightening, and confusing. That's a lot different than sexual orientation, though. My "Version 2.0" on this states that your sexual orientation is largely invisible, it's the feelings and stuff you have about yourself (primarily) and how you experience yourself, and to a lesser extent (and later on), how you feel and experience others. What's easy, what's on the outside (i.e. what arouses you) isn't necessarily indicative of anything other than puberty.

The long and short of it is that it's probably too soon to determine for sure what you are, typically it takes some time for the awareness of the stuff you cannot see (those feelings about yourself) to be clearly known, and with accuracy. Until then, try not to fret about it, or jump to conclusions.

BeautifulSilence
January 3rd, 2009, 10:29 AM
Girls Puberty ~> Teen Sexuality.

Everyone at some point in their life is attracted to a member of the same sex. Puberty is a time when young people become sexually mature, and a part of that includes exploring sexuality. Until you actually advance with both genders, then you won't know for sure what you like.

Don't be so eager to label yourself. You are what you are and accepting or rejecting a sexuality that's different to heterosexuality isn't going to change your preferences.

People, friends in particular, have a lot of power to make you open to possibilities. Sometimes their suggestion is so strong that you start to believe see something that you never noticed and sometimes it wasn't even there.

Don't let other people tell you who you are. Take some time to think about what you like. If you're still unsure then don't completely cut off the idea of being with a girl. If you feel more comfortable calling yourself straight, then call yourself straight. You don't need to tell people what your sexuality is, it's none of their business unless you want to be more than friends ith them.