The Nightmares Won't Stop

[KrystalKey]

i'm kind of new here and this isn't easy to talk about but i'm having really bad problems with recurring nightmares i have.

since i was 10 years old my sister had a boyfriend. shes 20 now and still lives at home. shes had that same bf for a long time. anyway he use to come over a lot even when my sister wasn't home. it started out ok and all that but he started getting closer and closer to me and started coming over a lot more frequently when she was at work or whatever. he started pushing himself on me and eventually started touching me in very bad ways. i always told him no but he had this really calm voice that made it seem ok. i was too young to know any better

i started getting older and really knew it was wrong. everytime he left i felt so dirty and used. i finally told my sister about it and made her swear not to tell my parents. i dont want to go through anymore with it. she broke up with him and i havent seen him in like 5 months. but since it stopped ive been having terrible nightmares about it. almost every night and i wake up totally freaked out and crying. i dont know how to make them go away.

anyone have any ideas?

[Atonement]

I'm sorry to hear this. Honestly, I think the best way to handle this type of situation is through therapy. Okay, I know you don't want your parents to find out. But being open and honest with them can help you get past the problem. First, I would try talking to a school counselor. Express to them your concerns with your parents, ask where you can get help, and then go from there. Or you could go to the school nurse.

I hope all goes well and if you ever need anything, shoot me a PM

[wavey]

Sounds shit to me,

I've had the experiance but i was young and the lad was feeling my bals ;| wtf..

i've coped with it, i hardly ever think about it, but with you it's differant that was awful, you should of told you're sister before this. :|

you're nightmares have to be sorted with therapy. or they'll go away and come back worse.

[byee]

I think you're having an emotional rwaction to the sexual trauma you unfortunately experienced. Eventhough it's (thankfully!) over, the memories remain, and are haunting you in your sleep. Feelings have a way of hanging around and being very insistent until they are addressed.

I understand why you'd just prefer to not deal with this at all, lest of all by telling your folks, but unless and until you address this horrible stuff, the chances of it interferring are unfortunately very good. Now, it's just getting in the way of sleep, but it might soon interfere with a relationship.

You've been victimized, and victims do best when their injuries are treated properly. Please find a way to tell someone that you feel really badly and need someone to talk with. If not your folks, than maybe a guidance counselor, someone. All you'll feel is better.

[The Batman]

Since you already told your sister it happened try talking to her about it. Try and get all of the things your feeling out in the open so you can heal from this painful experience. If you just try to bottle it up inside that bottle might burst and it'll shatter your future relationships. You just need to talk about it and get some help.

[wavey]

Tip 1 - Dont bottle stuff up, i've tried that, it can release an angry gas inside of u called adreaniline, and with adrenaline + person u hate, = Injury to one of u.. ;|

[Resonans]

Yes, try talking to her about that...