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[Gumleaf]

well i guess i should give some background for those who don't know me much. i have a gf, her name is joanne and we have been together for nearly 10 months. i also have a good friend called tiffany who i talk to often and stuff. then there is, or was perhaps, my best guy friend adam. for a few months until a few weeks ago tiffy and adam were together. it was great because jo and i would double date with them and stuff and we all got along and stuff. but when the broke up their friendship basically ended too. after that i was still friends with both of them until i told adam about my suspected depression and since then he has been really distant from me. anyways, for the last few weeks since all this i have been there for tiffy. she has been upset and lonely sometimes so i have tried my best to be there for her.

so anyways, on new years eve tiffy called me and she told me she had nothing to go to for new years which sucked because i know from last year that being home alone or without friends or anything on new years really sucks. jo and i were going to a party, but the party was hosted by one of jo's friends and not someone i know. but trying to be a good friend i ended up inviting tiffy along. she decided she didn't want to go because she wasn't invited and wouldn't know anyone. i told joanne about this and she said i was stupid in the first place to ask her to a party she wasn't to, etc. that night during the party i called tiffy a couple of times for a few mins each time to keep her company. anyways, joanne found out about this and wasn't too happy about it for some reason.

so that was wednesday night. tonight i went to see joanne after she finished work and while i was at her place tiffany called me and we talked for a while. when i finished on the phone jo wasn't happy because i spent ages talking to her during our "us time" together. she was upset because she says i'm spending too much time with or talking to tiffy instead of spending it with her. now i don't think i'm spending too much time with tiffy or anything. i argued that tiffy needs her friends right now while jo argued that i have already gone out of my way in helping her and that i should concentrate on myself and our relationship more.

meh, idk. i think jo is overeacting and idk why. its not like i want to hook up with tiffy or anything. i love jo way too much to do that to her. i think its all stupid but maybe i'm missing something? i can't believe something this small can mess things up so much. :(

[Requin]

I don't think your missing anything stephen, and I think you've got it right on the ball really.
I think your girlfriend is overacting, but for good reasons, she loves you and she wants you to herself, she wants nobody else to get in the way, and I expect she's worried that your friendship with tiffany is getting in the way.

I'm not very good at relationships but maybe you could just reasure your girlfriend that tiffany needs help and that you do love her, but your friend needs you. Maybe you could ask your girlfriend to help you set tiffany up with someone?? I don't know...but what I'm saying is, I think your right. But jo is only doing it because she loves you...:-)

Hope everthing turns out well for you in the end Stephen. :D

[Θάνατος]

Well Stephen, Jo is jealous of you spending time with Tiffany. Even thought you are doing nothing wrong Jo sees it that you are spending more time with Tiffany when you should be spending time with Jo.

You need to reassure her that there is nothing between you and Tiffany and from now on I don't think it is a good idea to be talking to Tiffany while you are with Jo. Tiffany will understand if she cares about your relationship with Jo.

Good Luck Stephen if you want to talk about this we can some time OK.

[Sapphire]

Jealousy is an ugly thing. But, it is a clear sign that she loves you.
Just avoid talking too much with Tiffany while your with Jo.

[Gumleaf]

well this thing with tiffany is still getting in the way with jo and me even though we have had a fight about it and have talked about it. i had a bad day today and then tonight when i saw her she kept making comments about how she is better for me then tiffany and stuff like that. its like she feels threatened by me being close to tiff, even though i say and do things to jo that shows that she is the person i love and want to be with. anyone have any ideas of how we can get past this? i think it will damage our relationshipin time if i can't find a way to get through to her.

[Sapphire]

Keep the two separate.
Don't talk to Tiffany or about her with Jo.
Don't talk to Jo or about her with Tiffany.

Show Jo that the time you spend with her is just for the two of you, no one else.

Don't spend much time alone with Tiffany either. That will make Jo even more paranoid that something will happen between you.
I know that it can be difficult to do this with who you deem to be your best friend, but it will ease things between you and Jo.