Friend came out of the closet

[jjmcray]

So one of my friends just came out of the closet. We aren't really close friends, but we still know eachother pretty well. However, I will never view him as the same. I will feel uncomfortable being around him, especially alone. What if he fantasizes about me or something? I don't know what to do or say.

[Dragonite]

Well he's still the same guy things shouldn't be be awkward even if he isn't ur best
Friend

[nachtspiegel]

you're jumping to conclusions here. chances are, he isn't fantasizing about you. he does, however, trust you to let you in the know, and you're being judgmental to automatically think "oh no he wantzzz meee." just my two cents on the matter.

[Oblivion]

you're jumping to conclusions here. chances are, he isn't fantasizing about you. he does, however, trust you to let you in the know, and you're being judgmental to automatically think "oh no he wantzzz meee." just my two cents on the matter.

I agree
Just because he came out, it doesnt mean he suddenly is in love with every guy he meets or every guy friend he has.

a) He isn't any different- he just told you whats going on
b) Your still his friend... Not his boyfriend
and
c) A lot of guys fantasize about other guys their age, especially while masturbating. Not to make you feel uncomfortable, but labeling him as being more prone to fantasizing about you is judgmental.

[thiscityisdead]

i think your being a little judgmental about the situation, just because he trusts you enough to tell you this deep information i dont think that you should be thinking that he loves you or anything, if anything at all i think he admires you for being there for him and thats why he "came out of the closet" to you...

Hopefully this helps a little =]]

[NightHawksr71]

So one of my friends just came out of the closet. We aren't really close friends, but we still know eachother pretty well. However, I will never view him as the same. I will feel uncomfortable being around him, especially alone. What if he fantasizes about me or something? I don't know what to do or say.

Mate, how long have you known he was gay/bisexual or whatever?
How long have you known him?

He hasn't changed since he told you, why treat him like he has?
And no. he won't fantasize about you anymore than anyone else would/has.

This is exactly why I'm not coming out any time soon.

hope you realise he is still the same person, and still your friends no matter what his sexual orientation

[mr.sexy_bomb]

like i have said, just cuz you like girls doesnt mean you are gonna like All the girls same with gay guys just cuz we like guys doesnt mean we are gonna like all the guys

[Sapphire]

Just because he's gay doesn't mean that he fantasises about you and wants to have sex with you...that's just so ego-centric on your part! God!

[marcus24rich]

you dont have to worry about anything if he knows that you are straight and isnt intereste in him he wont do anything to you even though he may be attracted to you he knows that he will never be with you

[Camazotz]

He's still the same guy as he was before, except now he admitted he was gay. I don't see the big deal.

[SirRawrsalot]

lol "he totally wants me!!!" if you aren't gay, I doubt it. don't worry about it

[byee]

You heard something that you weren't expecting, and it's surprised you. That's normal. It's also normal in those kinds of situations to feel uneasy or awkward. Hopefully for both of you, that will be temporary.

Your friendship was based on things other than sexual stuff, and can continue to be, if you choose. Try to remember that sexuality is but one part of who we are,as people, and that we aren't defined soley by it. In much the same way that every guy doesn't automatically see every girl in a sexual way, and girls donlt see guys in only sexual ways, the fact that you learned something new about your friend does in no way mean that he now sees you differently, or sexually for that matter. There's more to attraction and arousal than all that.

Take some time and reconsider what this all means, and if you're uncomfortable with him now, maybe talk with him and get his reassurance that he's not suddenly experiencing you in a sexual way.

[jjmcray]

I'm sorry I did not mean to sound egotistical or judgmental in anyway. I just know of other people who's friends have come out of the closet as well and thought their friend was gay and tried hooking up with him and stuff...

[Sapphire]

Just because it happened to them, doesnt mean that itll happen to you.
you still sound like you think way too much of yourself tbh