me+sexuallity= CONFUSED??

[curiousteen]

ok well ever since i was 11 years old i never thought of guys being hot or wutever i only liked girls at the time. then somehow i started to like this guy i knew and i thought somethin was wrong wit me, and the first thing that came to mind was not to tell anybody and that i was gay and i was wondering why i still like girls. (i didnt know wut bisexual meant at the time.) and after awhile at 13 or 14 i started to like guys sexually and emotinally and i liked girls sexually and emotionally. i always wanted to experiment wit guys since i was 12 but most ppl i know r str8 that i know of. i never really thought of experimenting wit girls but ive done it we just kissed and i fingered her while she gave me a hj and bj.when it comes to relationships I'd date a guy and I'd date a girl, but if were to marry i wouldn't marry a guy cause i cant see myself doin that. i'll marry a girl though. and ill have sex wit both if it came to that.

i just want to know if anybody wut i could be curious, bi, or gay. :whoops:

P.S.- i know i cant be str8

[wavey]

I think the term is called Bi-curious.

means you wanna experiament and your craving WONT stop til you do.

ask ur best friend round or a lad u think might wanna try it with u.
sleep over his or ask him to come over urs, and just get onto the convo or jerking off and 'cricle jerk'

and ask his opinions on circle jerking, maybe then ask him if hed wann atry it with u, they see where it goes from there.

[curiousteen]

trust me if i were to ask any of my friends they would say no

[markmcw]

I think the term is called Bi-curious.

means you wanna experiament and your craving WONT stop til you do.

ask ur best friend round or a lad u think might wanna try it with u.
sleep over his or ask him to come over urs, and just get onto the convo or jerking off and 'cricle jerk'

and ask his opinions on circle jerking, maybe then ask him if hed wann atry it with u, they see where it goes from there.


Seriosly that wont happen.... Unless ur friend is gay... Yes he might let you give him a bj but i know i would never ask that

[Serenity]

Title: me+sexuallity=CONFUSED??

And yet you didn't feel the need to post in the forum called TEEN SEXUALITY? Hm. Moved.

when it comes to relationships I'd date a guy and I'd date a girl, but if were to marry i wouldn't marry a guy cause i cant see myself doin that

Valerie's analysis: You seem to be bisexual but it doesn't matter since you don't think you'd ever want to marry a guy. You're probably going to end up experimenting with guys at some point during your teenage-college years but by the time you graduate you'll probably ignore your attractions to guys and find some lovely young lady to settle down with. Hooray happy ending.

Regardless of 'what' you are, you're 14. There are plenty of other things to be worrying about. Do you know what career you want? Do you know where you want to go to college? How are your grades? How's your social life? What kind of extra-curricular activities do you participate in? Do you have a job? Blah blah blah [these are all rhetorical btw]. Stop worrying so much about sexuality. It's way more stress than any of us need, especially considering being a teenager sucks enough anyway.

[curiousteen]

oh i noticed that it was in the wrong forum when posted the thread. but yea i know wut i want to do wit the rest of my life i do have goals i just think my sexuality is goin to get in the way

[byee]

How exactly did you determine you weren't straight? You sound 14 to me.
I think it's way to early to determine that you're not straight. You're confusing arousal and affection with real emotional attachment. Liking a guy (either as a friend or *otherwise*) doesn't mean much of anything, esp. early into puberty when everything is arousing. And everyone *likes* their friends, that's what makes them friends! And, you're not seeing yourself being coupled forever with a guy. Most gays I know (even at 14) are still somewhat confused about the whole arousal/attachment thing, but they become increasingly aware that they are gay, that they see themselves and experience themselves and others in a way that's consistent with that identity, that for them, same sex partners are most comfortable, that they see themselves loving another guy exclusively forever, and that the thought of being that way with a woman is not at all appealing. And, they become increasingly aware that comes from deep down, not just some bad experiences from the dating wars.

I know there's this tendency to try to undertand all the conflicting emotions by labelling onesself, but I think it really might be best to tolerate the ambiguity for a while and just get used to yourself and all those new feelings and urges, without rushing to judgement. With time, it'll be clear who you are.