Problem with girlfriend and talking on the phone

[jjmcray]

My girlfriend has a huge, very traditional family, so they are always having family gatherings and events and etc, especially during the holidays. She is also always getting grounded by her mom, and getting "in trouble" I guess, so we don't really go on dates that much anymore, the only time we get to see each other is at school. So we often resort to talking on the phone instead.

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So my girlfriend and I used to talk on the phone like ALOT when we first started dating. It was really fun too. We would stay up til like 2 in the morning after having talked on the phone for 4+ hours straight. Might sound boring, but we had our laughs, and our deeper conversations.


But maybe I'm just over analyzing this or taking things too seriously, but it just seems like we don't do that anymore. And I miss it. I liked doing it.
Here's what happens.
I call her, she doesn't answer, so I wait for her to call back.
She calls back hours later, and she only calls to say good night. So we only get to talk for a few minutes.
Then the other day, I had called her in the afternoon, and she didn't call back til the evening, and she just called to say hi and that she was going to go watch TV.
And I don't want to be rude or anything but I mean, come on... Wtf? Why did she even call in the first place if she's just going to hang up on me and go watch TV...

Can someone help me understand what's going on and what I should do? It's irritating me but I really do not want to be mad at this girl. She is the best thing that's ever happened to me and the only thing holding my life together right now.

[Θάνατος]

Well to be honest she may just busy right now. The next time you talk to her on the phone ask her why you don't talk on the phone much anymore.

That is what I would do. Be direct and to the point but be ready to expect that she might be drifting away from you.

It could be nothing and her family is forcing her to spend time with them during the holidays.

Well take care and let us know what happens.

[terminoob]

talk to her at school about it, or the next time she calls, just try and get into a conversation about why she nevers answers or only calls and talks for a few minutes

[jjmcray]

Well now that I think about it I think she is just normally like this all the time. I think the reason why we talked so much was because of Hurricane Ike. That was when we really got to know each other. So since there was no power or internet or TV that's why we talked so much.

[Gumleaf]

Well now that I think about it I think she is just normally like this all the time. I think the reason why we talked so much was because of Hurricane Ike. That was when we really got to know each other. So since there was no power or internet or TV that's why we talked so much.

well that might be the answer, or at least part of it. but if that part of your relationship is important to you, then maybe you should talk to her about it. remember, communication is the key!

[Trickster]

well in my experience that happens to alot of couples, she has more stuff to do and is busy. In mine we used to do alot of talkin on the phone but he became busy so we do small talks like for 5-15 minutes every so often a day. Like 2-5 times a day
. But her calling to say little things like goodnite and hi is her doing alot. She wants to hear your voice, be the last thing you hear before you go to sleep and just random calls to just do some small talk. Small things mean alot, you should realize that. Because think:
She is exhausted and wants to relax and decided to just call and say hi for no reason. It may seem like she is being disrespectful and neglectful but she is doing something to make sure you dont feel neglected.