Is it weird or inappropriate

[jjmcray]

to call your boyfriend/girlfriend your best friend as well?

Because to be honest, I don't think I really have a best friend. I have lots of close friends, but ever since the only person I could have considered a best friend started being an ass hole, I can't really think of anyone else as my "best friend" except my girlfriend... And no, we weren't best friends when we started going out. That's not how we met.

[Atonement]

Its typical for you to refer to your significant other as your closest friend. Really, its perfectly normal. All good relationships need to be based on friendship first.

But, you also need to have a closest friend outside your relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend. God forbid, you guys break up, you still need someone to fall back on, which is where the friend outside the relationship is handy.

[sndr09]

I don't see any thing wrong with that at all. I have never had a "best friend," just a lot of good friends. I dated a guy for nearly a year, we spent quite a bit of time together and he really was my best friend.

[Hyper]

Its not wise I'll give you that ;)

EDIT: Its not a good idea to think of someone your intimate with as your best friend.. Its best to have both in seperate personalities

[Trickster]

Its good to thinks of them as your best friend but i really do think you need an outside friend you can talk to about stuff your not ready to talk bout t o your bf/gf or dont want to.

[byee]

There's a certain closeness that makes someone a g/f, b/f. And, tehre's a certain closesness that makes someone a besty. Sometimes, they're the same person, sometimes not.

The only risk in labeling someone as both is that you run the risk of being overdependent on them. When one person is expected to meet more of your needs, it can be a bit suffocating for them, and limiting for you.

Whatever special feelings that come with a romantic relationship, keeping that special by also maintaining other friendships is a good way to nurture both that relaionship, and yourself.

[Gumleaf]

my girlfriend is my best friend. she was my bestie for nearly 2 years before we hooked up. there is nothing strange about it, but it does have its draw backs. like when you have a fight with your gf and you want to talk about it, most people would turn to their bestie but when she is also your gf that makes things difficult. but otherwise i think its great. it makes the relationship extra special i guess.

[Oblivion]

To me, in a serious relationship, if your girlfriend/wife hasnt become your best friend, something is wrong

Although some people choose to classify a guy friend as their best friend, and a girlfriend as their, well, girlfriend, their love buddy should be one of the people on earth who they can truly open up to, and speak to. Which, in essence, is a best friend.

But then also, little things, like crushes in school, or some girl you meet in a bar, are not as deep. You aren't going to suddenly become ones best friend just because you asked them out- just like any friendship it takes time to mature into a beautiful thing.

So it is normal either way, although I obviously prefer it when your girlfriend is your best friend :D

[Camazotz]

First off, I don't believe in "best friends", because what classifies one friend better than another? You can have "closer friends", but it should not be judged in a list.

That being said, it's good to have your girlfriend as a close friend. However, if you need to talk to someone else, you should have other friends to talk to.

[jjmcray]

Ok well I have known her for more than a year... never really talked much, until about 2 or 3 months after I met her, and she started telling me deep, personal things that other people normally wouldn't tell someone (not dirty things, you pervs, lol)... So then I started dating her about 5 months ago and have been going out with her for 2 months. Do you think that's too short of a relationship/friendship?

[enjoiskater94]

Nah, i mean. I love to skate and obviously that's not something girls want to go do so of course i got my friends to do guy stuff with but majority of the time i am with my girlfriend so yeah i'd say it's alright.

[whatifitweretrue]

My friend thinks of me as his best friend, yet he talks to me and his ex on the same level about extremely personal things. He did this still when they were going out, and thought of both of us as his best friends. Hope this can help you relate and answer your question!

[MoveAlong]

Well not really. Your boyfriend/girlfriend or even spouse should be your best friend, because you're so close. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you're not friends, in fact you should be friends. If not, it's a hella lot harder to live with that person.

Sure you can have other best friends too, who you're not romantically involved with, because you're not supposed to spend ALL your time with one best friend.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

yeah i mean it doesnt matter what you call people aslong as they are close to your heart :)

[thiscityisdead]

i think that you should have a gf/bf seperate from your best friend..like earlier posts said you need someone to fall back on incase of a breakup or major fight...

[dyslexiaa]

I, personally, haven't been friends with any of my girlfriends.

It just seems like a line I don't cross.