ohemgee!! i'm sick of this!!

[SockzInABox]

people please stop posting threads about asking if your gay or lesbian..
it's a choice you aren't BORN gay or lesbo. most teens are curious
going through puberty if you looked aat some of the other threads you would see that
i'm sorry if i sound mad i'm not mad its just that we have a billion threads about this.
i have nothing against gays and lesbo's by the way half of my friends are homosexual and that's cool its there choice...
just please people its becoming an old topic..

[george]

I'm sorry to break it to you but NO it's not a choice, it's not a choice whether you want to be gay or not. For one OBVIOUS reason, why in the world would you want to be persecuted by so many people in the world? Yes it's true that a lot of teens while in puberty are curious and in the end stay straight, but that's not always the case.

This forum is MADE for threads with questions for teens wondering whether or not they're gay so if people stopped posting threads like that, this thread would die out.

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[Sage]

Choice or not, that's besides the point. People make those thrieds (surveys) just because they're curious how many other people of different sexualities are out there. This thread kind of defeats the point of this forum.

[byee]

There are a lot of very interesting theories out there on what causes homosexuality, but it's pretty much accepted in the scientific community that sexuality (straight or gay) is NOT the result of sime conscious choice, like what brand of jeans you decide to wear. It's really a very complicated process that isn't controllable. I think many confuse the acknowledgement of who they are with some prior process that infers 'choice'. But, awareness doesn't necessarily equate with control. I'm aware I was a guy a long time ago, yet I obviously didn't have much choice in that!

I think puberty is a very stressful time for a lot of people, probably most. Part of that it that it's really new territory, with a lot of new feelings and urges, which most are unprepared for. So, in the absence of real knowledge or experience (or the knowledge that comes from experience) it's hard to make sense of these urges. Hence the questions.

As one who answers a lot of these posts, I'd like it if people took the time to read before they post, but i also recognize that when people are anxious, they want a fast answer, and directed personally to them. If you don't care to repeat yourself, then you can choose not to respond.

[Sapphire]

People just need to chill out about their sexuality. They are so highly-strung that the slightest hint of curiosity sends them into a panic.
If everyone just relaxed a little, it would be better for them and this forum could develop into more than just a place to ask if you are gay. This forum has the potential to really bring people together. But it can't because it is being used as a space to ask the same question over and over.

[Rutherford The Brave]

people please stop posting threads about asking if your gay or lesbian..
it's a choice you aren't BORN gay or lesbo. most teens are curious
going through puberty if you looked aat some of the other threads you would see that
i'm sorry if i sound mad i'm not mad its just that we have a billion threads about this.
i have nothing against gays and lesbo's by the way half of my friends are homosexual and that's cool its there choice...
just please people its becoming an old topic..

Actually you are born gay or lesbian. Plus some people don't want to be gay and that's them just being worried about it. Also as part of Vt it's our duty to help those in need not shut them down or complain just because all the threads have a re-occuring motif.

People just need to chill out about their sexuality. They are so highly-strung that the slightest hint of curiosity sends them into a panic.
If everyone just relaxed a little, it would be better for them and this forum could develop into more than just a place to ask if you are gay. This forum has the potential to really bring people together. But it can't because it is being used as a space to ask the same question over and over.

Listen, I usually love your arguements, but this time not so much. No offense really but, some people have reasons as to why they are scared. Some parent's are very evangelical and homosexuality could get them beaten. The repitition does get annoying but like I said it's a duty and we all adhear to it.

[Sapphire]

And the number of people we get on here who will be beaten by homophobic parents is almost non-existent. Scrap that, the number of people we get on here that are scared of being beaten by any homophobe is extremely low.
Most of them are just confused and worked up over nothing.

[Callwaiting]

And the number of people we get on here who will be beaten by homophobic parents is almost non-existent. Scrap that, the number of people we get on here that are scared of being beaten by any homophobe is extremely low.
Most of them are just confused and worked up over nothing.

And since we can help them realise that it's nothing, calm them down, and direct them onto the right course of action, why shouldn't we?
When you're worried about something it's hard to think clearly, and most of the time all they need is reassurance, which doesn't take much effort, but can take a big weight off their shoulders.

[SockzInABox]

everyone does have there opinions i beleieve that is a choice
and that's fine if you don't i'm not trying to be mean..
its just when i'm looking to help someone on the forums all i see
is threads asking if your gay or not..i realize people are worried and want a
fast answer but there is really no need to have like 9 of the same thread on one page
(not sure of the real number just naming a random number)

[The Resurrected One]

everyone does have there opinions i beleieve that is a choice


But you see, it isn't a matter of opinion. It's the matter of what actually is the truth. Straight people, like yourself, wouldn't really know too much about it. Gay people though are the ones who you should ask.

[NightHawksr71]

But you see, it isn't a matter of opinion. It's the matter of what actually is the truth. Straight people, like yourself, wouldn't really know too much about it. Gay people though are the ones who you should ask.

Definitely a good point.

How about we just make a sticky with the title that just says something like if your are wondering whether you are gay, Bi, Lesbian etc, Read this first, or something, most people will read sticky's before posting. And if they don't we'll just direct them to it and if it answers their question well it does if it doesn't we can spend time helping this person.

[pistonfan28]

There is nothing wrong of being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or straight.

[Sapphire]

And since we can help them realise that it's nothing, calm them down, and direct them onto the right course of action, why shouldn't we?
When you're worried about something it's hard to think clearly, and most of the time all they need is reassurance, which doesn't take much effort, but can take a big weight off their shoulders.Just because they are concerned doesn't mean that they simply lose the ability to read and think for themselves.

everyone does have there opinions i beleieve that is a choice
and that's fine if you don't i'm not trying to be mean..
its just when i'm looking to help someone on the forums all i see
is threads asking if your gay or not..i realize people are worried and want a
fast answer but there is really no need to have like 9 of the same thread on one page
(not sure of the real number just naming a random number)If you believe that it isn't something that you are born with, then that is your prerogative. There is no clear-cut answer as to the whole nature v. nurture debate so your belief is perfectly acceptable!

I have grown accustomed to ignoring most of the threads in P101 and Teen Sexuality for the simple fact that they are all very, very similar. Maybe you should try the same as you can't stop people posting certain things.

How about we just make a sticky with the title that just says something like if your are wondering whether you are gay, Bi, Lesbian etc, Read this first, or something, most people will read sticky's before posting. And if they don't we'll just direct them to it and if it answers their question well it does if it doesn't we can spend time helping this person.
That could very well work