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citysmoker420
December 19th, 2008, 10:06 PM
i cant belive this is happening....

i am home from break... i really have had a rough couple of years... being sent away to programs and then coming back to find i dont know anybody (and they dont know mee)

i am home now... and my "friends" even my best friends from home... just stood me up.... im sititting at home with a glass of jack in my right in tears.... i cant belive this....

we had plans... to have ppl over... we called up these girls and it was all gravy... then since of the storm my friends parents coodnt drive him (which i think is bs cuz they live 1.64 miles away) i just...

my dad is more than happy to accomadate my social life (or lack there of) nobody wants to hang out with me... i have next to no friends (and none near) and they keep saying that they're coming later... and that well chill.. but now...

but when i offered to pick them up... they were like no...

im like so whats going on?

"uh well uh... walk.. *snort* *other kid in the background laughing*, dude i g2g ill uh. call u later."

im sitting in the dark. tears streaming down my face. i feel so.... so... abandoned... and betrayed... i thought conor and i were tight... we've had great times together... hes ht eone that wantd to hang out in the first place..... im having the worst thoguhts running through my mind... cutting (which i promised myself and others id never do again) suicide...

im sitting here in the dark sobbing i just cant tkae it any more

Oblivion
December 19th, 2008, 10:30 PM
Im sorry to hear that :(
But really if this is happening, they aren't your friends (as you have figured out) and you are better off without them.

Find people who really appreciate you, and are friendly.
Kids can be cruel, and peer pressure is hard to resist.

Maybe you should talk to you friend?

Finally, your social life isn't supposed to consume your life,
So even if you are lacking in friend right now, there no need to be hard on yourself with cutting.

citysmoker420
December 19th, 2008, 10:40 PM
jm abnt cutting i cant take this shit anymore... i have no relevent friends... i mean.. the friends i have... are too far away to help.. or to hang wiht... i have friends everywhere where im not.... i m so depressed... im so upset i cant cry any more...

they say that they were just hanging out and they'll b over at 11:30.... what do u think... m goign to hang out with them and talk privatly with him

i ccalled them again... i tlked to connor 1v1.... and he just felt bad about me coming to get them,..... i feel so stupid.... my dad somehow knows... he came up asking me....stuff... i love my father... but im too ashamed to tell him everytthing....

honestly u guys are the only people i can tell EVERYTHING too... ithink its becasue its non confrontational

thesphinx
December 20th, 2008, 02:58 AM
I'm sorry about all this confusion I really hope that it was just a misunderstanding.
But if it isn't you can always get new friends there are 6 billion people on this earth ready to meet you.
I know that it can suck losing friends and there really isn't anything anyone of us can say to make it less painful but it IS something that you will get beyond and you WILL find friends.

byee
December 20th, 2008, 12:38 PM
This does sound hard for you, i'm sorry also.

You've been thru a lot, and that has taken you away from your friends. Unfortunately, for them, "out of sight means out of mind". That's adolescence for you. While you've been away working in yourself, they've been doing other things with eachotehr and seem to have forgotten you.

It hurts when you think people are there, only to find they aren't. The important thing to remember is that you're a better person now, that the time away was important and useful and that you should make keeping those gains a priority on your life. If your realization that these people are no longer are your friends, then you should be prepared to let go and move on, and find new friends. And not let it bring you back down. Which means staying away from John Barleycorn and sharps.

Hopefully you've also got a therapist to talk this all over with, too.

Cindex
December 20th, 2008, 01:01 PM
This point in life is always harder. It just is. Once you've graduated and done with all of your schooling, it'll be easier. You'll be somewhere. You'll make friends.

You really only need one friend. And however childish it sounds, imaginary friends really do help. Sorry if that seems degrading :S

Try to stay happy, and others will see it and be happy too. That's the best way, I think, to make new friends.

Edit: By the way, Jack isn't a very good friend either. Try to be careful hanging out with him.

citysmoker420
December 21st, 2008, 09:53 PM
yeah.... but jack is a great friend when ur with other people... i ended up takign the initiative to go to a basketball game where i figured other kids would be.... it was maddddd awkward at first... like they're like oh... JD's here... but one or two were friendly... we ended up having some jokes... and then they came over cuz i inv them... but my dad woodnt leave so we rent gunn ahve girls over.... so we got smashed... went to my friend ryan's house and inv girls over.. . we smuggled.... 4 shots of JD.... 10 shots of Sambuca +irish cream (pierced nipple) and a SHITLOAD of brandy.... I personally supplied the booze which got me some good attention at the party... made some good tallk with a few girls... betcha if they werent fucking freshman i cooda hookedup... but im still mad nervous about my dick....

ive got a bump or something (non sexual) and i have a REALLY good chance of sex next week so i neeed help