Such a hypocrite...

[Trickster]

Ok my bf and i are going out and he is like getting annoying now. If he hits me it my instinct to hit back and he gets mad at me. If he calls me names offensive and i do it back its not funny. Also like whenever we meet, we he is like quiet and not himself. I think the trust went out the door, because he lies so much I dont trust him, and because i broke up with him b4 he doesnt trust me. Why he acting this way? Its like if i go away he wants me, when he got me he's a jerk. I want things to go the way when we first met and were like, now he is just...a hypocritical, immature, liar.

[Sage]

The point of being in a relationship is to find a happiness you can't find elsewhere- If you are no longer getting it, there's little point to continue. A person that makes you so miserable shouldn't have the privilege of having the title 'boyfriend'.

Call me old-fashioned, but I just don't find it right to hit, insult, or lie to a person you care for.

[byee]

The point of being in a relationship is to find a happiness you can't find elsewhere- If you are no longer getting it, there's little point to continue. A person that makes you so miserable shouldn't have the privilege of having the title 'boyfriend'.

Call me old-fashioned, but I just don't find it right to hit, insult, or lie to a person you care for.


Oh, just so excellent. Don't live in the past, there's no future in it. R egardless of how's he's treated you then, if he's a jerk now it's time to let go.

[dyslexiaa]

If he's being an ass, just dump him. It's high school and as long as your free to find someone better, start looking.

[Camazotz]

If he's really that horrible, break up with him.

[curiousteen]

i agree wit Camazotz why would u want to stay wit someone like that but its ur decision on whether or not u brake up wit him

[Trickster]

The point of being in a relationship is to find a happiness you can't find elsewhere- If you are no longer getting it, there's little point to continue. A person that makes you so miserable shouldn't have the privilege of having the title 'boyfriend'.

Call me old-fashioned, but I just don't find it right to hit, insult, or lie to a person you care for.

I beleive that too. I guess since im bi and i want a boyfriend its hard to find one in my school. Ever since we dont see eachother often because of his family or some crap and thats when he started acting like...a big fucking jerk. You think that has anything to do with it? ill try to work it out and be patient with him because he has alot of baggage. He smokes, drinks, marijunana, doesnt have alot of money. I dont do that stuff its just my policy of "If it doesnt come too me im not concerened" Its like he was sweet once and im trying to find that again. If he doesnt ill have to repeat what i did last time only i wont make-up with him

[ShatteredWings]

I beleive that too. I guess since im bi and i want a boyfriend its hard to find one in my school. Ever since we dont see eachother often because of his family or some crap and thats when he started acting like...a big fucking jerk. You think that has anything to do with it? ill try to work it out and be patient with him because he has alot of baggage. He smokes, drinks, marijunana, doesnt have alot of money. I dont do that stuff its just my policy of "If it doesnt come too me im not concerened" Its like he was sweet once and im trying to find that again. If he doesnt ill have to repeat what i did last time only i wont make-up with him
Dude, don't put up with that.
Drinks, drugs, mean to you... Why do you bother with someone who doesn't love you and hurts you?

I realize you said you want a boyfriend, and there aren't many guys avaialiable, but i mean, it's not gonna kill you to not be taken with anyone

[Trickster]

An update is after i hit him back hard for hitting me he hasnt called in like a week. I dont beleive i did anything wrong because if he cant take what he dishes out then he is the meaning of the word "hypocrisoy"(sry cant spell)" so idk whats gonna happen but im not apologizing. What do u think he is doing this? I think because of shock i actually hit back so hard.

[Sapphire]

Good on you for not apologising.

It seems to me that his moodiness is probably down to the drink and drugs. They are known to affect mood in a negative way and are bound to make his cash flow problems worse too.

You are better off without him. There is no point of a relationship if it makes you miserable. It doesn't matter how sweet he once was or how much you want a boyfriend. Keep your dignity and don't take him back until he shows you that he will treat you properly. You deserve to be in a happy relationship which makes you feel good about yourself.

[byee]

An update is after i hit him back hard for hitting me he hasnt called in like a week. I dont beleive i did anything wrong because if he cant take what he dishes out then he is the meaning of the word "hypocrisoy"(sry cant spell)" so idk whats gonna happen but im not apologizing. What do u think he is doing this? I think because of shock i actually hit back so hard.


I suspect he's punishing you for hitting him by withdrawing from you.

I really do think it's time to let go here, this guy's trouble. You're now resorting to physical violence, you're hitting echother. It's really better to be alone than be in an abusive relationship. There'll be someone else, with the potential of being much better, the sooner you let go, the sooner you'll find him.

[Trickster]

Heres another update.
He called and agreed never to hit me again. After he said that i told him dreams ive been having. I have a high self-preservation. so i told him i had dreams where it go to killing one person and he knew it was him while i didnt. It shows me that if i feel thretned i will become defensive. He told me that when i hit him back i had "a killers eyes". So if he hits me again it could be ugly...maybe bloody. It may not be my ideal realtionship but its a good one, just a rough patch. He knows what might happen if he hit me again so...idk.
Thanks for the ideas but they all said to break up. Try different ideas. Thank you though.

[Sapphire]

This is not a healthy relationship for you to be in.
The fact that you are scared of him being threatening and violent shows that.

I know that you really care for him, but you have to get out of this. You deserve to be in a happy, loving and safe relationship.

I know what it is like to have everyone telling you to break up with someone they think is bad for you. But being so caught up in it all clouds your judgment. You see their good qualities as being greater than and out-weighing the negative. They are normally loving and you don't want to lose them.

But, sometimes you need to allow yourself to see what others see. A relationship like this one, and like ones I've had before, are not healthy and safe.