Comming to terms with...

[TurboDieselBandit]

As I edit my old post's, I find my self changing answers about my sexuality from Straight and curious to possibly bi and curious. I don't want to make the mistake of saying I'm bi when I'm just curious or saying I'm curious when I'm bi. I have started to make less excuses for how I feel by saying that I'm just curious and oppressing the fact that I am bi. I'm afraid to look deep inside to see how I really feel for fear that I am bi. I have thought long and hard about this and have come to the conclusion that I am defiantly very curious but not gay. The problem is mainly that there is no one around me who has the same feelings or similar feelings for me to interact with. I think I'm about to find out the hard way that sexuality is not somthing you chose. Am I jumping to conclusions about my self? And what are some effective ways to tell if some one is bi or gay?
[B***If any of you feel the same way or close, feel free to PM me***

[curiousteen]

i dont think ur jumping to conclusions wit urself ur just workin urself to hard tryin to figure out wut u r and im the same dealin wit whether im bi or curious but i think ill consider myself bi

[Sapphire]

Try to refrain from labelling yourself. There are so many people in this world that will happily do it for you that you don't need to categorise yourself too.

If you feel an absolute need to label yourself, stick with the "curious" one. It indicates that you are unsure about it and open to experiences that will help you discover your sexuality. To label yourself as bisexual now, when you are still unsure, would be more embarrassing if it turned out that you are straight than if you just said that you are curious.

I hope that made sense.

[TurboDieselBandit]

Its good to know that I am not the only one and I will try not to lable my self, I just hope I'm not about to find out the hard way that sexuality is not somthing you chose as I have heard so much.

[khaos14]

Yeah, if you're still unsure then stick with curious. Just so there's no pressuring yourself into anything.

[byee]

How about labelling yourself 15. It's honest, direct, and accurate. And you can live with it for a year.

Puberty stirs a lot of sexual feelings and urges, and it is hard to determine what they mean. It might be best to just go with the flow for a while, a few years, until puberty's done and you have a better sense of who you are and what you need. Right now maybe chaulk it up to 'Hormones'.

Sexuality isn't just about arousal or 'curiosity', it's about emotional things like attachment and trust, who we feel safest with and closest with. The arousal/'curiosity' part is there, but it's really secondary to the emotional piece, eventhough it seems easier to identify first. That's just puberty, though. When you get used to yourself you'll better understand the diff btw'n attachment and arousal, and respond accordingly. Until then, try not to label yourself, it's likely inaccurate, anyway.

[TurboDieselBandit]

After thinking a little more and finally j/oing last night, I now have decided to stick with the curious. I think that I was feeling like I was bi because of all the sexual feelings I was getting from not masterbating for 4 days which is becoming more unusual for me because now I usually do it every 1-3 days. And now that I let out all those feelings last night and had some time to think, it has become more clear to me that I'm not bi, I'm just hitting a confusing part of puberty. But this does not mean I don't want to do sexual things with another guy, it simply means I'm not doing it because I'm bi, I'm doing it out of curiosity. Hope you get what I'm trying to say.

[JohnnyFreight]

life is a journey you need to explore yourself.
nobody can tell you your orientation better then yourself.
just be open to self exploration and never embarrassed about it.
it'll most likely take some time for you to be sure.

I think labels are too specific and unnessesary.
don't bother with em.
You don't need a word to discribe yourself.
it kinda inhibbits you and puts you into a category, if that makes sence.

[rain]

After thinking a little more and finally j/oing last night, I now have decided to stick with the curious. I think that I was feeling like I was bi because of all the sexual feelings I was getting from not masterbating for 4 days which is becoming more unusual for me because now I usually do it every 1-3 days. And now that I let out all those feelings last night and had some time to think, it has become more clear to me that I'm not bi, I'm just hitting a confusing part of puberty. But this does not mean I don't want to do sexual things with another guy, it simply means I'm not doing it because I'm bi, I'm doing it out of curiosity. Hope you get what I'm trying to say.

I am kinda in the same boat

[AllThatIsLeft]

over a year old bump. :locked: