I need Help

[Tubbsyclone]

K Im disabled. I have short arms and when i walk im hunched. I'm a good guy and all and decent looking yet I cant get a gf. Are most girls just shallow or is something wrong.

[inthend]

I know someone with disabilaties simalar to u. he has a hunched back. Hes a nice guy however no one can stand him because he is extreamly cocky. he tries way to hard with girls ask for their number like 2 mins after meeting them and will text them like 4 hrs later asking if they want to hang out. (creeper)

my point of telling you this is dont be cocky be laid back. unfortunatly most teen girls are shallow. howver you can still have a chance. My best advice to you is treat them like humans dont talk to them with any intentions or hints at trying to atract them to you. start out slow and just befriend them... low key... over time you can possibly develope it into something but dont rush things

[new_kid_on_the_block]

ok inthend sorry but your advice is poor befriend them? bad advice then they see you as a friend. make your intentions clear from the start but dont be cocky as inthend said just ask them out or something or ask them for there number see what they say dont be shy dont be laid back because believe me being laid back with girls suck i was before and my friend who i believe isnt as good looking as me got a lot more girls because his intentions were clear and he was bold. so be bold and you will get 1 because girls like kind bold and generous.

[byee]

Well, I don't think girls are 'shallow', I don't think the issue is that. Rather, I think that teenagers are really self conscious (and very conscious) of who they're with, who their friends are, and so on. It comes from insecurity, all those changes, all that's new about themselves and their lives. There's comfort in familiarity.

Unfortunately, being a bit different means that many might have more difficulty accepting you and recognizing what a nice, special guy you are. I think you know all this, and it's really unfortunate. I just think it's a combo of the age, and the difficulty people ahve being around others that are different.

You might face more lack of acceptance and more diffiuclty in finding what you seek, but if you focus on those areas of yourself that are the same (or maybe even better!) than everyone, and join in groups and things that focus on those activities, it will minimize the obviousness of your disability. Likewise, with time, some lucky chica will be able to respond more to what really matters......the inside......and she will be worth the wait.

Keep looking, be strong, and get involved in lots of group activites so you're exposed to them!

[Tubbsyclone]

Ok Im very thankful for your advice. I'm not like a guy people stare at and never talk to. Im pretty popular and im pretty good friends with a large part of the student body. but k no1 likes me. and I'm like what? Im just as good or even better then most of the guys in the school.

[SockzInABox]

I'm a girl and i really wouldn't mind as long as he's nice and awesome..! :]

[pistonfan28]

Ask a girls opinion!

[Tubbsyclone]

So I should ak her if girls are Shallow? Me confuzed

[byee]

if they're talking to you, then they like you! Girls donlt usually jump all over you, it's more subtle!

maybe you're just being oversensitive (or over eager). Just be with them and enjoy them (and they you) and with time, things develop. Maybe you just need to continue what you're doing and give it more time.

[Antares]

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