Met this guy.

[Mr. Smithers]

Me and my friends went to this club last week.



I ended up talking to this guy. The only problem is that he's 36.

I really like him. I mean we are just friends, and I really want to be with him, but I want to know is this person too old for me?

/Link removed

[Atonement]

Um. You're 17, he's 36. Its illegal. Yes, its much too old.

[Oblivion]

Please dont post links to stuff like that; that being links to 18+ gay bars, especially when they include pictures
Thanks,

Anyways, like Addison says, its illegal to have sex with him, but if you wanted to be just a couple without sex, that would be legal, i think.

[Archer600]

He is more than twice your age it's illegal to have sex with him, and why would u want to be in a relationship with a guy that old

[alsoknownas]

why is it illegal?
I thought the legal age of concent was 16 :S

Forgive my stupidity

[Atonement]

why is it illegal?
I thought the legal age of concent was 16 :S

Forgive my stupidity

Its 18 in America.

Further more, what of your parents? Like, dating a guy over twice your age?

[alsoknownas]

ah i see.
You learn something new all the time.
I guess i cant say i qualify to help but going by what everyone else thinks may not be the answer thats right for you

[nachtspiegel]

The first thing that comes to mind is to where, at age seventeen, you could have met a thirty-six year old unless you're using a fake ID or he's a pedophile in an under eighteen club. Although I've had to learn age limits (my parents are fifteen years apart, my sister is eighteen, her boyfriend is twenty-six and she started dating him when she was about to turn fifteen,) this does stick out. If it is genuine, I will tell you to think a lot about it. If you're almost eighteen, wait until then before you do anything. If he really cares for you, he will understand that.
To add (edit): However, one thing that I forgot to add is that you two are at two total different stages in life. I know that there is "age is just a number" but it's a number that can set you apart in a lot of circumstances. At seventeen years old, you are probably close to finishing high school and you may be leaving for college and beginning your own life. If you don't know this man well, he could have a completely hidden life from you. Meeting in a club is shaky in the first place, and if he seems to be a frequent, he probably is. Without trying to cause unneeded trust issues, who is to say that he won't be there when he isn't around you?
The reason why, I feel, my opinion is different in this situation is because I know it's hard(er) for gay, bisexual, and lesbian people to start relationships. I really hope that it isn't destined to end up all bad but you have a lot of thinking to do here.
My main concern is that he could possibly be trying to use you (most people our age are naive and gullible.) And, even if you are not, he may not be trying to take it that way.
You can't always see clearly through crimson colored glasses.

[byee]

Two issues here, Fezzie: The first are the legal ones. The second are the emotional/psychological ones. The emotional needs and abilities of a 17 year old are a lot different than a 37 year old. What you both are looking for and how you're likely to experience it are very different, esp. since you're talking 'romantic' interest here.

I'd strongly reccomend you look for someone closer to yuor age, the chances of your expectations being met are much better.