Getting Help: My Story

[chelsay13]

Ok, so it all started on a friday night. I was stressed out, angry, heartbroken, and upset. I couldn't think of any way to vent, so I cut myself. I couldn't believe it afterwards, and soon became paranoid. I felt guilty and bad because i just couldn't tell my parents. So then, on Monday, I went to school and told my friends. They were shocked, but understood. They told me the best thing to do is get help. We spent about 45 min. trying to figure out who the best person was to tell, and what I was going to tell them. I got my courage up and with my friends, went to my most trusted teacher. We had the following Conversation...

Me: Hello _______
Him: Hello Chelsea
Me: Umm, is there anyway I could maybe talk to you?
Him: About what?
Me:Umm, something
Him:What?
*long pause* Then I lifted up my sleeves and showed him the cuts.
Him:I see...
Him:So when did this happen?
Me:Friday.....
Him: Why?
Me: I was upset, and stressed out about school...
Then he asked details. We got right infront of his room and he said...
Him: Chelsea, I just have 2 questions.
Me: ok...
Him: Did this change anything?
Me:No
Him: Was it worth it?
Me: no...
Him: Let's talk tomorrow at 7:30. Take your time getting your things, I won't mark you tardy.

In the morning we had a conversation about me getting help. He gave me different things i can do when I want to cut.

Getting help is one of the hardest things to do when you have a self harm problem. You might be afraid of what the reactions are going to be from your parents or trusted adult. You may think that they're going to freak out and punish you. In reality, they won't. Your parents or trusted adult may be worried about you and will want to help you to get help. If you need some help trying to come up with different ways of telling someone, here are a few ideas:

1. Go up to the person and show them your cuts - make sure this person is serious.
2. Email someone explaining your situation, and asking for advice for help.
3. call up your trusted person and explain to them your problem.

TRY TO AVOID:
-Laughing - some people laugh in uncomfortable situations
-Avoiding Eye contact
-Being in a crowded place
-Showing your cuts to the trusted person while others are around

[byee]

Oh, bravo for you, this story made my day, thanks for sharing it!

Yes, speaikng out and asking for help is easier than many think. Adults aren't the big green mean monsters so smany make them out to be, most of them are really rather docile and willing to help when given the chance! Good for you for doing that, allow that trusted teacher to be there with you when you tell your folks and set up time to talk with a therapist.

Keep me posted, OK?

[chelsay13]

Yeah,I'm proud of telling. I even did a speech about it in english (the class my trusted teacher teaches). it was very emotional. I ended up telling everyone about my problem, and wow they were shocked. I think i stopped about 17 potential cutters.

[lil miss gem]

thats an amazing story.. ive had trouble with self-harm for a long time i only stopped when things were looking up i blamed myself for sooo much and i couldn't deal with everything in my head i thought i was going mad it took me 4 - 5 months to stop and i still done it when things felt at the worst im really glad u didnt go to far :) ur a incredibly strong person and i hope u always are x :)

[jacknife]

That's great! It's amazing you told your whole class about it. Nice job. :)

[sunsings]

WOW thats very touches and i am impressed and thank ful you posted this. also i wanted to say that i laugh ALOT when i get nervous... i am glad you said those what not to do things! TY for post

[Dark Angel 26]

Wow. That's an amazing story. Well done you. I just have to work up the courage to do the same now!:yes:

[With.My.Radio]

Your story helped me...I've been stressing over whether I should just tell my boyfriend or wait for him to find out. I realized maybe I should just tell him because I know he is an understanding person and he won't think of me any differently.