I'm thinking about coming out.

[nachtspiegel]

One (maybe two) people already know that I am bi. I told my sister-in-law a few hours before I got put into a psychiatric hospital seven months ago, and I think I might've told one of my roommates in there (that I still talk to outside. I shared contact information with several of my friends in there even though I was not allowed to.) I'm thinking of telling my sister, my mother, and at least two of my friends, and then telling more people this coming summer. I am so tired of living every day feeling like I have something to hide. I am not five. I am tired of playing hide and never be sought.
I felt like saying this somewhere.

[Atonement]

Any adversity you face is a shame on them that they cannot handle who you are. Be strong brotha.

[eikookmi]

I hope all goes well.

[nachtspiegel]

I am thinking of telling them between my niece's birthday (the twentieth of this month) and Christmas, in case I get thrown out of my sister's apartment over it. I know the female friend that I want to tell will understand because she is bi herself, I just hope she doesn't gossip about me behind my back. Her, and the male friend that I want to tell (as they are my two closest friends) worry me because they (much to my dismay) found out about my self-harm, and now more people know than I am comfortable with.
I am trying to be, but it does get difficult.
I am simply tired of living in the dark.
Anyone that is worth keeping around won't leave my side.
Simple as that.

[Raynes]

Do it, if they can't accept you for what you are, than they aren't very good family or friends.

[Synthslave]

well i'll recommend you my plan.don't tell them/parents/ untill you're 18.or 21.or untill you move out.anyway.when you don't depend on them anymore they cant do anything to you.i told my best friend.and that's.others just suspect.

[ThePhantom]

Please ask yourself some questions:

-What are the benefits of coming out at this time?
-Why will your parents dislike you because of this attribute? Think hard about this one. Maybe they won't be mad at all.
-Are your friends supportive? Do you have a supportive group that will be there for you?
-Are you absoloutley SURE? Are you sure that you are sure?

There is very little reason to come out. I never officially came out. I told some friends, had the gay pride flag on my website, but that was about it. I found that becoming comfortable with myself was the most important thing. How others feel is their own issue.

[nachtspiegel]

I figure that the sooner I do it, the better.
I don't care what my parents think.
I don't know if I'll have a supportive group, but there really is no way to tell unless I just do it.
The main thing that I'm sure about is that I just wish I could change this.

[ThePhantom]

I figure that the sooner I do it, the better.

What is the benefit? Will it make you feel better as a person? Why do you not accept yourself enough to simple acknowledge the fact you are gay


I don't care what my parents think.
You said you might get kicked out of the house, I think you do.


I don't know if I'll have a supportive group, but there really is no way to tell unless I just do it.
Think about it. Do your friends support homosexuality? Are they open minded?


The main thing that I'm sure about is that I just wish I could change this.
Could change what? The fact that your emotions are bottled up? When you come out, you are still very much going to be the same person. You aren't going to be some flaming lunatic, because that is just not what is accepted in today's society. You are going to have to cloak your emotions the very same way, but are going to be able to be more open with your friends. The world is not going to suddenly accept you for being gay; the world has not come to that point yet.

[nachtspiegel]

I live with my sister. I'm bi. I want to do it to put the rumors and the inside jokes to an end, and to get it out there. The sooner I do, the sooner people will get used to it. My friends all claim to. My friend's mother gossips about everyone, though. It's her hobby and favorite pasttime. Most of the girls that I know are out as bi and no one cares, but it is pretty obvious that everyone would take it a little differently from a guy. I don't expect the world for accept me for being bisexual. I couldn't care less what 99.9% of the people in this world think. I'm just tired of living a lie.
(By the way, I didn't mean to post this in a "chomp down your throat" kind of way. I'm just very tired.)

[Mr. Smithers]

You should do it when you are ready. I can't really tell you when to come out or when it is the right time to come out. Because in the end, its going to be you that makes the decision as to whether or not you are going to do it. If you are comfortable with yourself to let it out, come out. If you have to set a date on the calender, so be it. Whichever way you feel comfortable. If you really want to get this off your chest, then you wouldn't panic yourself to much. Take your time. There is no rush.

Just think that if you are looked at different, or if your family doesn't agree (Which I really don't think that they would because they should love you no matter what.), then they never really loved you. You should remind them that you are still you.

[byee]

I'm not gay, but I must say that The Phantom gets an A+ here, good onya!

I think it's really important to do a 'cost benefit analysis' whenever you decide to self disclose something pretty core to who you are. Revealing something that meaningful (and potentially earth shattering) isn't something to be done lightly, make sure you've really assessed not only why you're doing it, but the chances of it working out OK. Doing it to 'get it off your chest' isn't necessarily a good enough reason to share. And it's 'not keeping a secret' or 'living a lie', it's discretion and good judgement (kinda like your folks not talking about their sexual antics).

If you have intense feelings about your sexuality, then the place to reveal them is with your therapist. There, you can better understand them, and come up with ways of dealing with them (often the self acceptance, which is why a lot of people need to prematurely 'come out'). If, after processing all this in therapy, you and your therapist still believe sharing this with the wider world is OK, then you can work on a way of doing it to maximize the possibility of it working out OK.