hellp:( ex bf wants to beat up new guy

[Fiending_the_freedom]

So, theres this punk show coming up,
two friends of mine are in two of the bands playing.
so obviously i'm going, i always go to these shows, a lot of my friends do.
well one of the friends playing i met through my ex brendan.
so hes going.
and so is jared, the guy i'm sort of "seeing".
i told brendans friend to give brendan a heads up that were both coming (to see how he is going to take it) we're not going to together.

So basically he says hes going to beat the shit out of jared. and that him coming isnt smart, and he doesn't understand why i'm going, its HIS friends band.

FUCK. this is so unfair and immature stupid male ego.
its been almost 2 months since we've been broken up ! plus i've been spreading a rumor that me and jared are just friends now and he wont see me like that so that brendan would think that.

i'm not sure what to do.
this is going to turn out bad i think.
either.
a. nothing will happen (unlikely)
b. brendan beats him up
c. brendan beats him up and scares him away.
d.brendan tells him he wont if he stops seeing me, and jared listens.
e. brendan tries to beat him up but cant due to the fact that i will kick him in the balls so hard he will hurt too much too.

now i know people will say why use violence against violence,
but after all i've gone through and put up with from brendan,
calling me a whore, harrassing me, stalking me, trying to beat up anyone i see.
i think i deserve to have one good hard kick.

plus were all going to be drinking and get drunk there so i KNOW shit will get started.

opinions people?

[Atonement]

I like option E. He deserves it. Sorry, maybe thats just my weird equility thingy in ym ehad going off. ha ha.

[just-me]

i would also have to say e.
u shouldnt be worried about him, he has no right to make you feel like that and if he starts on jared then he deserves what he gets.

[Donkey]

I don't think you girls understand how much that hurts for e, and if you bruise them he might have to have his scrotum removed and stuff... so not too hard if you do plan on that.

[just-me]

if hes kicking th shit out of someone else dont you think he deserve it?

[Donkey]

If it is necessary, but if you can just ignore him and keep away from him...

But yeah. Bruised testicles is probably worse than just beating someone up, in my opinion, if you really can't sort it out verbally and he makes more threats you do have the police and stuff...

Violence isn't gonna solve anything.

[just-me]

i agree try to stay away from him and see what happens

[Cindex]

I agree with donkey in that police CAN help. Doesn't mean they should at the moment.

Captain Obvious says he's jealous. But that means he still wants you and wouldn't physically hurt you, and if you get in his face there's not much he can do.

If he's drunk, that may be a bad idea though.

[UrGoingDown]

My first thought would be "a.", since a lot of things we think are going to happen, and often never does, but I say, heck, go for "e.". The guy seems to be a real jerk, and if he needs a kick, let em have one. Haha.

[Raynes]

if hes kicking th shit out of someone else dont you think he deserve it?

No, I don't. Not at his young age, and not for this. If he killed your new boyfriend, and when I say killed I mean brutally killed him. Then yeah, maybe he'd deserve it.

As for your problem, stop worrying about it. If he scares your new guy away, then your new guy is a bit of a easy target in my opinion. If he does beat him, which I doubt he will, it's a job for the police to handle, it's called assault and it's a crime.

Good luck.

-Rayne.

[Hyper]

Lal Tegan if it comes down to it just hope your new crush isn't a puss :P

Though option E seems nice considering all the back story

[Stevo 69]

I would say the most likely of scenarios is that he won't do anythin, some guys say that they're gonna beat someone up and 9 times out of 10 they do nothin. he's just tryin to make you feel bad, don't listen to him. If he does start a fight, then make a scene and maybe someone will help out, there are always police at concerts who can take him away.

[JohnnyFreight]

lol maybe jared will kick hiss ass!

[ECGBUnni]

your ex boyfriend is showing dangerous signs of possessive behavior. You seem to have made it very clear that your relationship is over, yet he persists in keeping other guys away from what he deems is "yours." he also deems HIS friends HIS exclusively and not yours. All of these are warning signs for serious psychotic problems.

What I think you should do is talk to an adult that you trust with your worries about your ex's borderline obsessive behaviors and the risk of violence. If this guy escalates eh can easily be come a wife-beater, or worse. He is dangerous and needs some serious help. I know you don't want to do him a "favor," but by getting *him* help, you may save many people a lot of pain.

Dealing directly with this disaster, you need to be very firm and tell this man that he does not control you or your friend's actions. He should not come close to you and if he does you will call security on him. He needs to learn (very quickly) that he is not in charge.