i'm 14 he is 18

[lovelesslady]

i met this guy on the internet this summer, actually i met him at the beginning of summer and talked to him on the phone a few times. I live in washington and he lives in texas. So around August i started talking to him again. Even thought it was only on the phone we had this insane connection, i loved this guy. I've been beaten and hurt in the past, i told him that, but i also told him that i was 16 when i'm really 13... almost 14. so last night, after these almost 4 months of spending hours everyday on the phone, i had to admit to him that i was 14. He took it to badly, told me i was just like his other girlfriend. i didn't mean to, i didn't want him to know that at the age 13 i had been raped and beaten. So today, it happened last night. Last nigth he kept telling me he was going to kill himself. And today he told me that he didn't give a shit about me and what happened in my life, i know he was lying about that. He tells me i can call him again, i don't know if i should, all this is so horrible, i've depened on him so much, he has made me the person i am today, i love him and i feel that i am a lot more mature for my age. I don't know if i should try to mend things up with him or not. If you were in his spot what would you be thinking, or doing, and if you were in my spot what would you being thinking or doing?

[TheWizard]

You should have been honest with him from the beginning. Don't worry about him and stop pertending you have a relationship.

[RowanVer.3.0]

You should have been honest with him from the beginning. Don't worry about him and stop pertending you have a relationship.
Finally someone with balls. Seriously.. That's kind of umm.. Hmm... Stupid? Jeeze.. You talked to the guy on the phone, big deal.. The guy's freaking 18..

[ScotsGirl]

First of all, you shouldnt be ashamed of what happened to you. Its not your fault that you were raped at 13, so dont let ANYone try and make you feel like you need to hide that or explain it. It is NOT your fault, ok?

Secondly, I agree with Josh, you probably should have been honest in the first place but I'm guessing you already know that...and theres no point in dwelling over 'if only's...its done now, so you just have to try and put things right.
I dont know how long it is until your 14th birthday, but, seeing as you are still 13, you have still lied to him by telling you are 14, right?
I can understand why because 13 does sound very young and its easy to imagine someones reaction...but its hardly something you want to base a relationship on.

Anyway, there isnt much point in me telling you what i would do in you position or in his, because its not about me, its about you...and him.
It might be an idea jsut to have a think about what you really want from this whole relationship. I mean, where do you see it going, what are you both getting from it? I obvioulsy dont know either of you but in my experience, an 18 year old wants very different things than a 13/14 year old in a relationship...

But he said you could call him, right? Which suggests he wants to hear from you, but you need to think about what you are really wanting...I dont know if you would rather talk to him, explain to him how youre feeling...have you thought about being just friends? Maybe thats something else you could talk about.
If youre serious about this, I think youre going to have to be a bit more honest with him. Its difficult, because you arent right there beside him so he cant see your face, he cant see your expressions, he cant hug you to make everything right, you need to talk to him about it, tell him exactly what you want him to know, because that is the only way he can find out.

Well, goodluck with everything! and eek! sorry for the long post!

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do what u feel is best..thats the bet advice u can get

[RowanVer.3.0]

do what u feel is best..thats the bet advice u can get
Not particularly. She might've thought it was best to tell the dude she was 16 so she wouldn't be judged by age. However, look where it got her. She also might've thought it was best to fall in love with an 18 year old, was it? Probably not.

[ThePhantom]

hon it would become illegal if he started dating you very quickley . . there is an age law that protects children from situations liek this from happening


get him off your mind! :hug:

[Zsky2]

You should of been honest, but currently you should call him back before he DOES kill himself, and send him a nice Xmas present.