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jason2311
November 29th, 2008, 07:45 PM
/......preferably from females.

Ok, so my girlfriend wants to start up figure skating and she wants to join pairs. I get jelous and hurt eisily. we had a discossion about it and i told her that i dont think i would be able to handle it because just to watch her being held by another boy and holding hands with another boy. im obviously not gonna keep her from doing what she wants but i dont think i would be able to be hhappy. does anyone have an idea or something for me to say to her or for me to do?
jjmcray
November 29th, 2008, 07:54 PM
Well, what did she say after you told her that?
And how good is she at ice skating?
If she's not a pro or anything you should try learning yourself and be her partner...
Everyone gets bruises along the way, but that's all part of practice. It's like playing guitar... You cut up your fingers at first, but they toughen up and get calluses and it doesn't hurt anymore.

Anyway, it's good that you want her to be happy and let her do what she likes doing, but if I were you, I would try to learn to ice skate and be her partner.
jason2311
November 29th, 2008, 08:09 PM
1:she left (msn)
2:really good
3:i have a heart problem right now so i cant do much
jjmcray
November 29th, 2008, 08:51 PM
Oh, well maybe you should talk to her about it again.

And if you can't be her partner, just make sure that she knows you don't feel very comfortable with it. Tell her you are OK with it, but you're just a little uncomfortable.
Hyper
November 29th, 2008, 09:30 PM
Well if she is going to do it anyway.. Just suck it up, smile, shut up and be there for her and work on your problem

Because if your not going to stop her and shes going to do it anyway you'll have to deal with it and if you show frustration then you wont do really well..
AutumnDae
November 29th, 2008, 09:36 PM
If ice skating is something she enjoys and makes her happy, and you like her a lot, you want to see her happy right?

Then let her do it. You may not be comfortable with it, but it is a sport. It's not cheating. She is creating a routine with another person, and he just happens to need to hold her. I am sure that if you care about each other nothing bad will come of it.

Does she get to pick her partner? If so, maybe someone you both know and are comfortable with?