is this really cutting?

[sunsings]

this is my first time on this part of VT but ... ummm.. i was wondering if what i do is cutting?


i dont make myself bleed much maybe i lil' drop but thats it and i have a star on the bottom left side of my left hand. Every time i get into an argument with my mom i re cut the star. I dont know why but i like seeing that star on my hand every time i look down

[Sunshine Girl]

umm i think so.?

but its not out of control or anything so thats good :)

make sure it dosent get infected thoughh.. that would suck.

[DarkWingedAngel]

yep that would be cutting

anything where you put a knife to yourself purposely is cutting
isn't it

[Patchy]

I would say so.

As long as you keep it in moderation and make sure it doesn't turn into a more serious habit then I think if it takes the thoughts away of your mum arguing with you then keep it basic (AND NOT DEEP AT ALL)

Only do it though if its your last resort though. You gotta ask yourself why your doing it though, I know the reason why but why cut, why not just shut your door and play loud music?

please share with us if your comfortable to.

[ShatteredWings]

Um

YES.

Stop. now. Please. Don't let yourself get caught in the cycle.. and unable to get out.

Even if it's not "cutting", it's certainly self-harm. And any form of self harm is .. well bad

As long as you keep it in moderation and make sure it doesn't turn into a more serious habit then I think if it takes the thoughts away of your mum arguing with you then keep it basic.
Patchy, i realize this might come across as rude, but that sounds like you're encouraging it. Why?

[sunsings]

i g2g i will be back latter but for one i dont have a door and thanks for the comments and razor blade, i love your name and thank you crazy for the concern means a lot i am about to cry and i dont even knbow any of you!! :( ! i will add you all to friend list!

[Patchy]

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Patchy, i realize this might come across as rude, but that sounds like you're encouraging it. Why?

If someone thinks they are having to do it it's better to tell them how to do it correctly and not cause infections/really deep cuts.

Its like what they do in the UK with homeless people that take heroin, they know that telling them to stop won't stop them doing it so they teach them how to inject it safely.

Im not saying that he won't stop doing it if we say stop however obviously its not but best way to deal with the problems. everyone has there own way dealing with things, I do see where your coming from though.

[ShatteredWings]

If someone thinks they are having to do it it's better to tell them how to do it correctly and not cause infections/really deep cuts.

Its like what they do in the UK with homeless people that take heroin, they know that telling them to stop won't stop them doing it so they teach them how to inject it safely.

Im not saying that she won't stop doing it if we say stop however obviously its not but best way to deal with the problems. everyone has there own way dealing with things, I do see where your coming from though.
Ok, that sorta-kinda makes sense.. kinda.

But,kyle, it's best to stop. I know anger can trigger urges like this, but it's not worth it.
It will get worse. that's the thing

[Patchy]

Yeah I really actually meant that if he was stuck in a routine of regular cutting

If you've just started to cut, break the habit before it becomes routine!

[Tori]

That's how I started, actually.. For months, all I did and thought I would ever do was carve and re-carve a line on my wrist with my fingernails. I think it was my way of staying in denial that I was a "cutter". If I wasn't using a real blade, not much blood was coming out and it was only in one small area, how could it really be bad?

Of course, it has become much more than that, as self harm tends to do.

It'd probably be easier to stop where you are now as opposed to some time down the road, even if it is already becoming a habit.
'Course, it's pretty hard to /want/ to stop when it's so early. Xd
I'm not going to say you should stop or else, but I don't think there is anything more annoying than attempting to patch up a deep wound with only one hand while your parents are yelling at you to get to bed already from downstairs. After a while, I have realized it wouldn't be worth it if I wasn't addicted.

[Synthslave]

lol.you're asking it like there's a definition for cutting.that's kinda lame.anyway.it's self harm.and it's bad.and pathetic.so.don't do it.

[Sunshine Girl]

um synthslave? your rude. and pathetic :]


anyways you should just do all you can to stop now..
cause it usually starts like this. small and not a serious problem. but it may get worse, and worse.

[Synthslave]

just expressing my opinion...

[Oblivion]

lol.you're asking it like there's a definition for cutting.that's kinda lame.anyway.it's self harm.and it's bad.and pathetic.so.don't do it.

just expressing my opinion...

Do not attack or harass any members.

Its not alright to express that opinion if its hurting other members
Calling someone pathetic is my idea of attacking and or harassing
Especially since this is a Psychiatric Ward, with many cutters.
In whole you are calling many people here pathetic

[Sapphire]

You seem to have an element of control over this, so it would be wise of you to work on finding alternatives for yourself now. Trust me, it will be much easier to do now than later on down the line.

[Synthslave]

Than I apologize if I insulted anyone.And I called self harming pathetic.not him.anyway.I apologize.

[Sunshine Girl]

thankyou :)
synthslave (i dont know your name)

its good you apologized
most people wouldnt

[sunsings]

why would i/ anyone result to doing this anyway i dont know why i did it, it just happened... can anyone shade some light?

[Hyper]

why would i/ anyone result to doing this anyway i dont know why i did it, it just happened... can anyone shade some light?

*Puts on his important face*

Well psychologically if we're not doing well.. And things keep getting worse even if its something small like you one day miss a bus, get late, forget something you had to bring to school/work, get your work criticized for being lacking etc.. Then you get the basis of the good old feeling, of being incapable of doing anything right. And once we start feeling like that our problems become bigger, stronger & harder to conquer.

And at some point everybody has a breaking point.. And at that point people look for a reliever. Some have developed methods that aren't harmful, some just get drunk or something alike.. And some turn to hurting themselves.

See by the time you break you problably already think bad of yourself or even hate yourself.. So some who haven't developed un-harmful methods of coping for this point they'll do the easiest thing and take their frustration out on themselves.

You cut, you feel consciously or unconsciously that you've punished the person responsible for everything thats wrong and that gives you relief. Plus carrying out this punishment makes you feel like you've accomplished something.

But most of the time after awhile you consciously realize that what you've done is wrong and that you've just hurt yourself and that makes you think even worse of yourself and makes your problems again bigger, stronger & harder to conquer.. But when you break again the temptation for the temporary relief is massive, since it is indeed a real relief, even if temporary and even if you know it.. Its much easier and much more temptive to take the easy path if you feel like your world has already crashed down upon you and that nothing can make it better. I mean if you feel like that and you KNOW that there is something that CAN temporarily help you.. Well its very hard to resist

Since it is a powerful lure that eventually develops into an addiction.

So as usual with all of these kinds of addictions, best never to start and best to quit as soon as possible because it only gets worse and only ends up hurting you more and more and creating a loop in which its impossible to break out of your depression.

[Sapphire]

There is no single reason as to why someone would hurt themselves. Different people have different reasons, and none of them are good.
The most common reason seems to be the release of negative emotions. Others use it to "ground" themselves when they are disociating. The list goes on.

[sunsings]

Thank you so much hyper that helped ALOT