How do I go about being more comfortable with myself in front of my family?

[EighteenNinetyOne]

Hey there

Most of the people that I know are quite comfortable to be themselves in front of their families, and I would like to know if anyone has a way to deal with this. Most of my other friends are fine swearing in front of people in their families and such, but I cant bring myself to do that. My mannerism's outside of my family is very modern-ish or very uncaring and natural, but when I'm at home I cant relax or be myself because I feel my family would make a big deal out of it, so I act kind of pre-sixties around them, very conservative and such, and I would like to change this, but don't know how.

Anyone know any way I can change it?

[Callwaiting]

You don't need to swear or anything like that around your family, it's fine not doing that. I'd never do half the stuff I do with friends when my parents are around. But if you feel like you need to let them see your real personality then try it out a little bit at a time. Unless your parents are ultra-conservative religious types, they probably won't even notice, or if they do, will just assume that it's you growing up.

So yeah, just give it a go and see what happens!

[AutumnDae]

VT General Hospital--->Family and Friends

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I don't know if my parents have EVER heard me swear past anything worse than "ass" or maybe "shit" really quiet under my breath. Either way; kids will always talk/act different around friends compared to family no matter how comfortable they are. I do of course think that swearing is unwarranted in situations where it might offend other people; I only swear if I know that I'm in an environment where swearing doesn't matter.

[byee]

It's interesting that you consider good boundaries and self awareness 'uncomfortable'. You're supposed to be a bit 'different' around certain people, that shows you understand that there are differing standards depending on your audience!

[Requin]

Sam your back!!!!

Anyway..as sam said there, you set yourself standards on what's right and wrong amongst certain people. Well done, that's a good thing, everyone's families are different, I feel like that too.

People talk to their families differently, so there's nothing that I can see to worry about here. So just do as you see what's apropriate to your current social situation.

[death_to_my_heart]

i am not confortible cussing eather bc i will get hit so yeaa

[Cantdefineme]

I'm different, a bit, with my friends than with my family but it is a respect thing. With my friends they dont' care if a swear occassionally, but I think that's rude in front of my family so my behavior is different just out of respect.