For curious,bi, or gay boys

[chub4chub]

This is a very personal subject. If you reply please be honest.
Have you ever been sexually abused:
How old were you when it started:
Are you still being abused:
Was it by a family member:Who(no name but title)?:
Was it by a school teacher:
A preacher or from church:
A friend of your parents:
or just a stranger:

this is a weird question.
Did the person hurt you or make you feel good(I Know sexual abuse is bad):
Do you think this is why you have sexual feeling or thoughts towardsv some-one of the same sex:


It has happened to me. It was by my grandfather. I was 9 or so when it started and ended around the age of 11. What he did to me DID NOT cause me pain. The things he did felt good even though now "I know it was wrong".
I do feel very strongly that this is why I have feelings for other males either teenage or older men. I also feel that is why I tend to admire the chubby or beer belly looking type.
With all that being said, If this has happened to you and you need some-one to chat with e-mail me and I will try to help you through your crisses. I know it is difficult to talk about. But it is real and this abuse dose happen even to boys like you and me.
Please don't give me an infraction for this questionair. This is what this site should be here for. To help those that might have gone through what someone has.

[charlie w]

Have you ever been sexually abused: i was almost about to be, but my friend was (by the same person)
How old were you when it started: 10
Are you still being abused: no
Was it by a family member:Who(no name but title)?:no
Was it by a school teacher:yes
A preacher or from church:no
A friend of your parents: no
or just a stranger:no

[chub4chub]

I am glad for your sake that it didn't happen to you, charlie w

[Mr. Smithers]

No but I have heard rumours though.

When I was about 11 or 12, I would go to church almost everyday. Not because I felt like it, but I went to a Christian Junior High. It was all boys too :(

I used to always talk to the Pastor when I always had a problem because he was like the counselor almost.

A friend of mine told me that there was a rumour that happened during my 6th grade year that the Pastor told one boy to come inside of his office to take his pants off supposedly because they were not the dress code but nobody believed it. I never found out if it was true or not. But its funny because most of the guys that I went to school with were gay.

But I never been abused myself. I would be completely traumatized and I can't imagine how someone who has experienced that would have felt. I feel completely sorry for them.

[TurboDieselBandit]

This has not happened to me but I do know that sexual encounters with the same sex at young age is mostly responsible for these kinds of feelings. When I was 9 I had 'sex', if you want to say, with my 8 1/2 year old god brother.(Not blood related) So now I believe I have feelings to the same gender. It does affect and sometimes create your feelings to the same sex.

[chub4chub]

are alot of you affraid to answer these questions? Lets finally be honest here.

[Mr. Smithers]

I don't think its that. I guess people don't want to discuss this topic. Its fully understandable. But you can't treat this like a survey. This is a very sad and horrible topic and If I were to go through such experience, it would be hard for me to share it.

But nevertheless, I appreciate your concern for letting people be honest about these types of things.

[chub4chub]

I understand all that what you are saying Fezzie. Just trying to connect and let those know. Even if you don't want to respond to the message. If anyone need an ear You know what I mean you can e-mail me. I've been through it and still do go through it.

[JohnnyFreight]

Yes I have. This is actually a very interesting subject that I think people should talk about because I know it happens ALOT and there should be more awareness of how frequently this takes place. Although I do understand that it could be quite painful for some people to share.

The first time that happened was when I was around 5, my neighbors kid took me into his trailer that was parked in front of his house and we like played around down there. They moved away now though so I don't remember which son it was because they all looked the same, they where Spanish. He was around 16 I think, I actually don't know it's hard to remember details. That happened 3 or 4 times and all it was was sucking each others dicks. we both didn't do it correctly and it neither hurt me or pleasured me. It just more or less confused me a bit, but I still knew what was going on kinda. It's weird though, because I dont remember him ever getting hard.

I'm sure that contributed to me having feelings towards the same sex.
In fact, looking back I would be attracted to that guy if I met him right now so I am certain that was a huge contributor.
he was a cute dude so i don't know why he needed to do that but that's besides the point.


Then the second time was some 29 year old guy i met off the internet (met in person) when I was like 13. That was also just oral sex and it was enjoyable at first until I reached orgasm. Then I felt dirty and it was really gross and the bj just kept going and going like orgasm torture or something. ugh and then he did it on my chest... so gross.

that experience did not contribute to my orientation at all, because it was already there. And if it had, then it probably would have made me more straight lol. I can say that I do regret meeting this guy.

But I cant really say that its damaged me mentally or anything that I know of.
It's not so much a painful thing to talk about and share with people as it is an awkward one.
Of course its much easier to share this on the internet when its all anonymous but I have shared it with a few friends who have also gone through similar things.

It could have been much worse and I'm thankful that it wasn't.
Because I didn't really realize the seriousness of sexual abuse until I got older...
I would have jumped into bed with almost anyone when I first hit puberty cuz i was thinking solely with my dick and nothing else...

[chub4chub]

I am sorry that happened to you. I also realize it is not easy to talk about. Like I said though I can and will chat back if you want to vent at any time.

[Neverender]

Have you ever been sexually abused: no
How old were you when it started: -
Are you still being abused: wasn't in the first place
Was it by a family member:Who(no name but title)?: No
Was it by a school teacher: No
A preacher or from church: No
A friend of your parents: No
or just a stranger: No

Did the person hurt you or make you feel good(I Know sexual abuse is bad):Wasn't abused
Do you think this is why you have sexual feeling or thoughts towardsv some-one of the same sex: No, because it's normal to be curious/bi/gay and I wasn't abused.

[ViT0]

honestly, id be wrecked(traumatized), my opinion on sexual abuse is that its a sick twisted thing to do. but thats just my opinion. sorry for everyone who has ever been sexually abused =[

[heyyitskylex]

This is a very personal subject. If you reply please be honest.
Have you ever been sexually abused: molested? if that counts
How old were you when it started: 8 till 11
Are you still being abused: no
Was it by a family member:Who(no name but title)?: no
Was it by a school teacher: no
A preacher or from church: no
A friend of your parents: yes my dads bosses son
or just a stranger:

this is a weird question.
Did the person hurt you or make you feel good(I Know sexual abuse is bad): no
Do you think this is why you have sexual feeling or thoughts towardsv some-one of the same sex:
yes i do

[DanielBoy]

I have an instance where it was somewhat awkward, and I didn't enjoy it, but it was with a friend a year older than me, and we were in the 5th and 6th grade. I don't really remember much, and it doesn't impact my life, but I think it helped to effect my sexuality somewhat. I believe that most people are somewhat predisposed to their sexuality at birth, and all guys are curious, but I also think that because it is all in the brain, a incident of this type of thing before puberty and before someone understands what it is, can effect their sexuality. I know this wasn't 100% on point, but I think it had allot to do with the thread. :P

[DanielBoy]

Yes I have. This is actually a very interesting subject that I think people should talk about because I know it happens ALOT and there should be more awareness of how frequently this takes place. Although I do understand that it could be quite painful for some people to share.

The first time that happened was when I was around 5, my neighbors kid took me into his trailer that was parked in front of his house and we like played around down there. They moved away now though so I don't remember which son it was because they all looked the same, they where Spanish. He was around 16 I think, I actually don't know it's hard to remember details. That happened 3 or 4 times and all it was was sucking each others dicks. we both didn't do it correctly and it neither hurt me or pleasured me. It just more or less confused me a bit, but I still knew what was going on kinda. It's weird though, because I dont remember him ever getting hard.

I'm sure that contributed to me having feelings towards the same sex.
In fact, looking back I would be attracted to that guy if I met him right now so I am certain that was a huge contributor.
he was a cute dude so i don't know why he needed to do that but that's besides the point.


Then the second time was some 29 year old guy i met off the internet (met in person) when I was like 13. That was also just oral sex and it was enjoyable at first until I reached orgasm. Then I felt dirty and it was really gross and the bj just kept going and going like orgasm torture or something. ugh and then he did it on my chest... so gross.

that experience did not contribute to my orientation at all, because it was already there. And if it had, then it probably would have made me more straight lol. I can say that I do regret meeting this guy.

But I cant really say that its damaged me mentally or anything that I know of.
It's not so much a painful thing to talk about and share with people as it is an awkward one.
Of course its much easier to share this on the internet when its all anonymous but I have shared it with a few friends who have also gone through similar things.

It could have been much worse and I'm thankful that it wasn't.
Because I didn't really realize the seriousness of sexual abuse until I got older...
I would have jumped into bed with almost anyone when I first hit puberty cuz i was thinking solely with my dick and nothing else...

The incident with the 29 year old guy is just disgusting that he would meat up with a 13 year old to do that, did you know he was 29 when you were talking with him on the net?

[1_21Guns]

please do not bump threads that are over a month old, this is over a year! :locked: