I cannot control myself...

[curiousashley87]

Well I know I have posted a lot of questions but that is because I have a lot of questions, is this okay? Well that is not my main concern: Well I have a girlfriend who is really sweet, smart, and not to mention HOT:wub:! And for the longest time I was able to control myself around her, but lately that has changed. At first I just measured it down to hormones...teenage hormones are crap and all that. But then I started noticing that whenever she would come near I would start to kiss her. Then during the times she would stay over I would try to intiate sex, and I would stop when she said no but then I would feel frustrated. Finally, and this is the scariest part, I am started noticing that whenever we would change for like gym or when we would change for bed when she stayed over I would start to feel excited and when she would touch me I would almost, well, orgasm. I am scared I am becoming a slut (hope it is okay I use that) and I do not want to hurt her....am I becoming a bad person? Help me please...

[Requin]

No your not a bad person. Bad people are ones who ruin countries and steal money for their own ends, and murderers.
This is probably down to hormones as most feelings during puberty are down to the little chemical bastards. Your feelings towards her most likely extend from them as it does that to you during puberty, having feelings towards the same gender is very normal, especially amongst teenagers. And having feelings towards friends is also very common and much more wide spread than you would think.

So there is no problem with this. As long as you don't actually touch her etc. Experimenting is another subject but it is not really a good idea, for some reason it's much more frowned upon than boys? Non intenional sexism I think. But anyway, these feelings are completely normal and you shouldn't worry about them, your not a slut or a bad person.
Not knowing how old you are it's difficult to tell where you are in puberty. If your relatively new to it, then this is very normal and you shouldn't be worried. But any age really, there is a risk of you still having these feelings and you may end up gay or bi. But this doesn't matter either and as the hormones stick with you until puberty is over (about your early twenties on average), it's hard to tell what orientation you'll be throughout your life.

So I'm saying don't worry about it, it's completely normal, and I'm afraid you may just have to wait until puberty is over.
Hope that helped and I hope that you'll feel better about yourself soon. :-)

[curiousashley87]

Ummm when I say in my post that she is my "girlfriend" I mean she is my girlfriend, as in the girl I am in love with and vice versa. Second I am fourteen and I said I have initiated sex. Finally I am 14...

[Requin]

Yes. OK. Badly put then. But if your girlfriend's with her then what's the problem about having sexual feelings towards her? It's normal, your a teenager full of hormones and your going to feel a little sexual towards her.
There's no problem with that. However as you are 14, it's quite young to have sex.
By 'Initiate' do you mean that you've already had sex?

Sorry about this but the wording was a little strange.

[curiousashley87]

By intiate I mean I started to come onto her but we never really had sex. I am just not sure how she feels and what to do if she says no or starts to feel uncomfortable around me cus we had sex.