So lost ><

[aBOO]

Ok so im new here and hers my first post ><

alright well let me get right into my story

Me and my girlfriend have known each other for about 8 years. (our parents are good family friends)
in the past few years i started to like her but had never the guts to tell her that. About a year ago, we started talking on msn and got really close. I told her that i liked her and then a few months later, i told her that i love her (which I sincerely do). We got together in August and we were doing really well. I love her alot and was always there for her.

Then about two weeks ago, her mom found out about us ( itll take too long to explain how she found out). Both me and my girlfriends parents are really strict about the bf/gf thing. And her mom is like really cool, so she accepted our relationship. And then i decided to tell my mom. My mom loves my girlfriend so she was fine with it. We couldnt tell our dads..cause thats like DEATH lol.

and last week, her mom had a talk with her. She kept saying stuff indirectly that she was unhappy with our relationship. So then my g/f asked her if she wanted her to stop seeing me. And her mother replied by saying, that is doesnt matter what she wants, not like she would listen to her. And then my g/f said that she would listen to her. And then her mom said, yes i want u guys to stop seeing each other, however its ure choice if u want to stop or not. And my g/f decided to end it. She said its cause she loves her mom alot and doesnt want to hurt her.

I completely disagreed with her choice. I tryed to make her stay but she broke it anyways. Her mothers like we can try again once were old enough (im 16 and my g/f is almost 15)
but there old school so thats not old enough
and the problem is im sure that by the time were old enough, ill have lost her to someone else for sure. Even though she denys it now.
and shese so perfect, it has to be her ><
and NOW i dont know what to do
i havent been taking it really well but ive been pretending too.
the only reason i havent hurt my self so far is cause ive promised not too.
I dont know how long ill be able to keep that..
and yeah thats kinda it=/
WHAT DO I DOOO =(

[Jean Poutine]

make her sign a contract with you saying :

"I will not date, flirt with, fall in love with, or otherwise be attracted to any human, animal, or plant of the male or the female sex until the mother of the requerant and mine agree that the requerant and I are old enough to flirt, date, fall in love with, or otherwise be attracted with each other."

then sue her for breach of contract if she does.

try to make her understand that if you really want. she's obviously overprotective and doesn't want you to get hurt. but to be honest I actually agree with her reasoning to an extent (depends on your age - how old are you?), not to the point where I would keep you from being in a relationship but I would discourage you from that. again, this depends on your age, which you didn't give.

I am as old school, or more, than a bunch of parents out there. that's probably not what you want to hear, but that's my advice.

it's always better to be loved by someone than to love someone. that's my closing statement.

[Falk 'Ace' Flyer]

First of all, chillax. It's not the end of the world, and it's definitely not worth it to resort to hurting yourself. Take a step back, and look at what happened; okay, your teenage relationship was broken up. Let's keep in mind that you've only lived approximately 20% of your life. If you really want to see her that badly, keep in touch. go to school, get your degree, and go back to her. But let's be realistic, you may outgrow your feelings for her: don't hate yourself for it. You're young, and these things happen all the time. It's understandable if you can't hang out with her because you won't see her the same way, it's okay if you guys never talk again out of high school, because, let's face it, it's high school. It just wouldn't be the same without the short-term relationships that end in odd ways.

Just chill, do something entertaining (watch a funny/actiony movie, play a game), sleep, maybe even write her a letter. Just do something that will relax your mind. The next step is to move on. Accept that you just went through what just about every other teen goes through. Trust me, being single effin' rocks.

[aBOO]

well redj, im 16
and i did mention it O.O

and falk i dont know if ill outgrow my feelings, i love her ALOT ><
i know il lbe better off if i did, but i seriously doubt thatll happen =/

btw thanks everyone ><

im trying to keep positive, but its kinda not working...which is why im here...
i keep having suicidal thoughts and stuff -__-
and yea its taken a toll on my marks in school too...and its only been a week ><

[Jean Poutine]

well redj, im 16
and i did mention it O.O

and falk i dont know if ill outgrow my feelings, i love her ALOT ><
i know il lbe better off if i did, but i seriously doubt thatll happen =/

btw thanks everyone ><

im trying to keep positive, but its kinda not working...which is why im here...
i keep having suicidal thoughts and stuff -__-
and yea its taken a toll on my marks in school too...and its only been a week ><
wow, I can't read. and call me Jason.

but I suggest getting over it anyway.

high school idylles are bound to end. the stuff you hear about people marrying their high school sweethearts happen very rarely.

I agree with Travis up north : being single rocks. enjoy your stint of liberty man. do something that'll take most of your time. learn to program. learn a foreign language. practice an musical instrument. I don't know your tastes so I don't know what you enjoy, but the important thing for the moment is to stop thinking about it. do something that'll take most of your newfound free time.

you don't have anybody to please now, and I doubt you can do anything about it without worsening your relations with your mom. if I were you I'd please myself (not in THAT way) and do something productive. music, sports, hell buy a calculus book and study that if that's your thing, as long as you find something you enjoy and that takes most of your free time.. don't give yourself time to sulk.

I'd give words of support but honestly I can't relate. not only I never thought of suicide before (and do not know anyone who did), but I also never even had a girlfriend. I have a lot of free time so I do a lot of things. a chick isn't a priority so I don't have time to flirt around :)

all I can offer is the generic "don't do it" and "we're here for you", but even if it's generic it's true. get better man.

[Zan0ra]

I don't think she wanted to break up with you. I wouldn't try forcing her to say "no I wont date anyone else" Maybe have a word with her mom and ask her why cant you two date?