How do i tell my parents?

[bethsanderson]

I started cutting myself in year seven and i havn't been able to stop.
This may sound pathetic like but every time i get really angry or upset i cut or burn myself.
I've been gettin bullied recently in school for something i did with an older boy at a party and the school aint done anything.
Me and my dad can't speak to each other without arguing and i've found myself cutting as not to say what i really feel.
im not a quiet person but i can't talk about my feelings openly so i cut.
i want to tell my mum because one of my 'friends' blabbed to school an they are gonna call her...but how do i tell her before the school? :(
PLEASE HELP
Thanks
Beth xxx

[just-me]

hi. well first of all speak to your school. they should not tell your mum without your permission. tell them to refer you to a councilor if you really dont want her finding out.
another option is just lettin the school explain to her.
if not just sit her down. if i was you i would just show her because i couldnt conjour (sp) up the words to tell her without crying :/
hope this helps if not feel free to pm me
im also beth :P xx

[BlackenedSilver]

Actually I think school can tell parents if it is something that could put her or the other students well-being in danger, which is what its doing.
Yea I agree with Just-me, you could either let school explain or tell her yourself. If you dont know what to say to her, I think preparing a statement to say like I cut myself or I hurt myself. or you could just show her the cuts.
Just out of curiousity, what year are you in now?
Hope it all works out :D

[jacknife]

If she is going to find out anyways than I would suggest you tell her first. Just be prepared to face counseling, psychiatry, drugs, and things of that nature because your parents will want to make you stop and so they'll send you to a psychiatrist who will want to make you stop and will give you some drugs. It's simply how these things work.

Sitting down with your mom sometime and explaining this to her as well as you can may be the best option for you at this point. If you need someone to talk to feel free to PM, MSN, or AIM me.

[bethsanderson]

Actually I think school can tell parents if it is something that could put her or the other students well-being in danger, which is what its doing.
Yea I agree with Just-me, you could either let school explain or tell her yourself. If you dont know what to say to her, I think preparing a statement to say like I cut myself or I hurt myself. or you could just show her the cuts.
Just out of curiousity, what year are you in now?
Hope it all works out :D

Im in year 9 now :] xx

[BlackenedSilver]

Wow.. Cutting for 2 years. You've kept it a secret for so long, I havnt been doing it for long, about 6 months. But both my parents know, well they think Ive stopped and my friends, Because they kept bleeding though my tops. Ive learnt to wear black tops now.
Just randomly, Im in year 12. (Sixth form :P)
But yea, I think your mum would appreciate you telling her yourself instead if hearing from someone else. If you dont tell her she could feel bad that you felt you coldnt go to her about something like that.
Feel free to contact btw.

[bethsanderson]

Wow.. Cutting for 2 years. You've kept it a secret for so long, I havnt been doing it for long, about 6 months. But both my parents know, well they think Ive stopped and my friends, Because they kept bleeding though my tops. Ive learnt to wear black tops now.
Just randomly, Im in year 12. (Sixth form :P)
But yea, I think your mum would appreciate you telling her yourself instead if hearing from someone else. If you dont tell her she could feel bad that you felt you coldnt go to her about something like that.
Feel free to contact btw.

How come you cut hun? xx :(

[BlackenedSilver]

How come you cut hun? xx :(

Mainly stress and self-loathing. Why do you cut?

[girlygirl]

i knw exactly how u feel... its hard to tell your parents.. i have been cutting for 4 years and still haven't been able to tell them.. its hard to tell them so it might b easier to let your school tell her .. but really its your decision

good luck .. pm me if u wanna talk x

[NextToNormal]

i understand what you are going through. when i had to tell my mom, it was really rough. i could not think of the words to say. BlackenedSilver is right, if your well being is endagered, they have to call or else they will lose their jobs. there was nothing i could do to keep my school from calling my mom in. trust me, i tried everything. including telling the counselor that i would tell her myself. it just didnt work.
if you really want to tell her before your school does, just sit down with her and flat out say that you have something important to tell her. once you have her full and undivided attention, tell her she needs to take what you say to her seriously. tell her that you have been struggling with some things for a while. tell her that you didnt want to say anything right away because you didnt know how she would react. tell her that instead of saying something in the first place, you internalized everything because at first, you thought that things would be better if you kept them to yourself. then tell her that now, you cant handle it by yourself anymore and show her some of the cuts. tell her that you wanted to tell her before the school did because you wanted her to hear it from you and not some person she barely knows. tell her that you want her help.
i hope that helps you. you can message me if you want to talk about anything.

[bethsanderson]

i cut because from year 7 ii was bullied by the music ii liked and year 8 because ii admitted ii was bi x

[just-me]

you obviously have true strentgh to tell people though.
i have been cutting for 2/3 years and my parents dont know but one week i fell apart and now have to see my doctor because my parents think im depressed (they still dont know about the cutting). i found that afterwards my mum was smothering me and now i close up to her even more.
just prepare for your parents to regulaly ask you about it. i didnt expect that and found it the hardest thing really.
hope i help