Very Strong Feelings

[Disconsert]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year, and I have to say it's been the best time of my life. It's such a great relationship that I never want it to end- but that's the thing: I am scared that in the future, something terrible might happen and it could. I want to be able to tell my boyfriend this straight out, that I want to spend the rest of my time with him. But, I also don't want to come on really strong and maybe make him nervous about it, because I'm not sure how he feels on the matter.

I know he loves me so much, as I love him, and I know for a fact this will last for a long time. Our friends are constantly saying how we'll be one of those high-school-sweetheart couples that stays together, and we've even had one of my best friends say that she could see us growing up and getting married.

I want to ask him if he, too, thinks we can make it that far, in a new society filled with one-night stands and thousands of divorces.

The thought of losing him makes me sick to my stomach and I can just about cry on cue about it. I lose sleep on the matter, and I know I really shouldn't be stressing so much. But how can I tell him such a big thing? Is it best just for me to wait until the topic is kinda forced upon us, or should I just flat out say something?

[Halibut]

Dont think about the future all the time.Or you will get caught up in it and not notice what is happening right now. causing bad things to happen.

[Gumleaf]

i understand what you mean here and i can speak from the guy's perspective. i'm only 14 but my girlfirend is 15 and she seriously can see us being together for a long time and has even been preparing our wedding in her mind. now i love her to bits and want to be with her for a long time, but in saying that it makes me nervous thinking that far ahead. but i haven't really told her that. what i think is that you should enjoy your relationship in the present. don't look too far ahead and grow in your relationship together. and even though we are in a day of age of one night stands, divorces and cheating, don't ever compare your relationship to statistics and whatever. you are both your own people and what you have together is obviously very special. i think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. you never know, he may feel the same way? anyways, the bottom line is don't let your love for eachother make you think too far ahead and enjoy your relationship for what it is now.

[Sapphire]

Dont think about the future all the time.Or you will get caught up in it and not notice what is happening right now. causing bad things to happen.
QFT.
If you worry too much about things going wrong in the future, you won't be able to enjoy the here and now. It is the here and now that matters the most.

I know that it is difficult to stop thinking about everything that could go wrong as I was feeling something similar to you a few months ago. I talked to him about it and he assured me that he wasn't going anywhere. I didn't believe him because everyone who has said that to me and has then left me. But, I have put those thoughts aside and we are both able to completely enjoy what we have with each other.

[Camazotz]

I agree with everyone else. Don't look too far ahead into the future. Be happy where you are. If you "know for a fact" that you will be together for a long time, then you have no need to worry.