Majorly confused!!!!

[Halibut]

OK so this is what happened
I went out this guy for a month. We had a amazing halloween. i slept over at his friends house with him and we just layed in each others arms the whole night and it was an amazing time. the next day. he tells me he is still in love with his ex and he dosnt feel right thinking about someone else, when he is with me.

three days later.
then he texted me saying "oh i spent time with her and i realize i dont love her" and then he went on saying how much he hates not being with me and how much he misses me and how he loves me. we go back out.

A week later(not even)
We had another amazing day. he was not feeling good so i came over made him soup. comforted him and such until he was feeling better. he said he loved me a few times. and i left feeling wonderful and happy that night.

The next morning(today)
He sent me a text saying "I think you should hate me, get over me, do what you need to. im fucked up ritiually.emotionally. i am in no place to be in a relationship right now. and he later told me it was nothing to do with me and that he is just really fucked up and such.

So i am not that botherd by it as i sumhow expected him to do it again. BUT
how will i go on to trust guys again. Like i dont even know wot to do. i feel like i am not botherd by him. but then i feel like crying. he was not a great boyfriend either i mean he never appriciated anything i did for him and did not do anything for me.Help please

[Gumleaf]

well my thinking is that he still has unresolved feelings for his ex and doesn't really know how he feels about her or you. so rather then take things further with you and possibly hurt you down the track, he has decided that breaking it off now is the best move before things with you go further.

as far as trusting and stuff. i think trust needs to be earned by every person you date. i know its hard not to do it, especially after a bad experience, but you can't paint all guys with the same brush. sometimes guys can turn out to be bastards and i have a friend who is one. but when they can earn your trust and keep it, then its something very special and something to really appreciate. i hope you have happier times with relationships in the future!

[Trickster]

I think you should trust him. My thoughts he didnt resolve his feeling with the ex. and when he is close to you. He fears he may hurt you by going back. So it come up everytime u get close. You should tell him, if u do, that u care for him. Let him just resolve his feelings by talking to the ex or going with him to talk. Cuz he seems to not want hurt u, and tries to make sure ur safe and if his feeling arise he doesnt ignore them. Let him resolve and it will be closure

[eikookmi]

It's either unresolved issues with his ex or his view on himself. Because i say those sort of things to people or something like it and it really is just me having another mental battle.