I need help...

[beautifullytragic]

Gah! I really need an attentive ear, and some good advice!

[beautifullytragic]

can anyone help me?

[beautifullytragic]

anyone?

[redcar]

we are all pretty good listeners here, wats bothering you?

[Aηdy]

this is the purpose of vt... we'll all listen to whatever you have to say!

[EvanP]

Gah! I really need an attentive ear, and some good advice!

When you say you need an attentive ear, do you mean you want one of us to listen to your story, or you need to be a better listener in your relationship. Because sometimes, it can be hard to stay on focus.

:?

[beautifullytragic]

I mean, I need someone to listen, or rather, see, since we are typing. Sorry 'bout that. I should learn to clarify.

[<-Dying_to_Live->]

DUDE JUST TYPE and weel read

[beautifullytragic]

ok sorry
well, theres this guy that ive known forever, we were puppy lovin in elementary school, and we did stuff together sometimes in middle school. we didnt do things together very often. now, he has a girlfriedn, and thought that doesnt seem to matter much now, it does as you shall soon see. well, one night he asked my to come watch a movie with him, and since we are really good friends, even though we hadnt gotten together in a long time, i decided to go. so, we were watching the movie, and he gradually starts to scoot closer and closer to me, until finally we were touching. he looked over and told me he had never stopped liking me, and that he thought i was beautiful, and then, he kissed me on the lips...it was kinda wet, and he tried to use some tongue, but i wouldnt let him inside my mouth. i just could not think. i couldnt think at all, my mind was so cloudy and i wasnt thinking clearly at all. afterwards i was like "aw crap, you have a girlfriend!" and he said "y'know thats been coming for a long time." i felt terrible. horrible. i kept asking myself "what is wrong with you!!?!?" i felt like a slut. he said he would talk to his girlfriend, and that he really wanted to be with me. well, since she was out of town, he didnt talk to her for a few days, and when he told me what had happened, i was so dissappointed in him. he had told me she had been acting funny recently, and when he talked to her, she appologized and told him how much she loved him. He couldn't bear to hurt her and so he sia dhtey were staying together. there were lots of detailss that were left out that may have contributed to this and stuff, but i cant remember them all. its just...i was so dissappointed in him. and it hurt, so bad. i feel so selfish too though. but i though he should not have done what he did (got personal), i should have stopped him...i should have stopped him...and i have no idea what to do... and im just so sad...

[RowanVer.3.0]

It's not your fault. He came onto you. He's going out with someone, just let him know, that as long as he's going out with someone you can't be together. Even if his gf likes him that much while he doesn't back, would she really want to be going out with him if she knew that he didn't feel the same?.. I know I wouldn't.

Think about it. It's not your fault, it happens all the time.

[beautifullytragic]

I feel much better now, thanks so much!

[<-Dying_to_Live->]

wow i congratulate you for having the courage to tell all that. i found ur story engaging. ur feeling the way any decent person would in your situation, and i dont think u could be handling it any better :)

[ScotsGirl]

wow i congratulate you for having the courage to tell all that. i found ur story engaging. ur feeling the way any decent person would in your situation, and i dont think u could be handling it any better :)

I agree :D

...and....

He's going out with someone, just let him know, that as long as he's going out with someone you can't be together.

I agree :D

mlatch, please dont think youre a slut for doing that, there is nothing wrong with you! Its really difficult when things like that happen because its easy to be caught off guard, just try and learn from what has happened.
And as for your friend, i guess its his decision what he does with his gf. By the sounds of things, he was the one who initiated this even though he has a gf and...i dont know what you are wanting to happen if you want to be with him or...? But if you do...would you really want to be with someone who does that to their gf?
Just something to consider...

Anyway, goodluck with things! :D
Dont worry sweetie, youre not a bad person for what has happened! Everyone makes mistakes.

:D
xxx

[r0x0row3nd]

somthin im not dumb enough to do wat he did u shouldnt feel selfish or sad or anything it was his fault