rape ahhhh

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok there is this guy and this is what he did first he came over kicked my ass
then he tea bagged me
then he laid on me then tea bagged me agen
then tea bagged me 3 more times
then he sat on me
and started touching me in inappropriate places
then he started rubbing his elbow in inappropriate places
then in math
he put his hand through the hole in the desk
and touched me
then he put his hand under the desk and touched me agen
he also tried to rape me to

what should i do

[The Batman]

Where did all of this happen? He touched you in class and no one saw it? How did this start and how do you know him?

You should call the cops and file a report so he can go to jail.

[just-me]

you should definately tell someone, be that teachers or parents or cops. someone needs to know and this needs to stop!
we are all here for you, keep strong

[DarkWingedAngel]

he is one of my friends
i have 2 witnesses that saw the classroom one
and one witness of the outside one
i can't tell anyone about it

[The Batman]

You have 3 people that saw what happened but they won't do anything about it. He's your "friend" yet he fought you then tried to rape you. Desi do you really want help? How can we help you if you won't help yourself the sensible thing to do is to tell someone what happened yet you say you can't. Why is that?

[DarkWingedAngel]

well i can't because then my mom will find out and she just can't find out

[The Batman]

Would you rather your mom find out or for this to keep happening?

[AutumnDae]

I see that you have 2 options here.

One is to tell someone, get help, and get him in trouble. He may be your "friend", but real friends do no do that. He obviously does not care about you. It isn't your fault, your mom won't be mad that he did that to you. Well she probably will be mad at HIM, but you didn't do anything.

And the other option is to confront him about it. Tell him you thought that was really inappropriate and if it continues that you will press charges and talk to people.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well the thing is he does not no how to act around girls
he has done this to other girls when he likes them
well not the rape part, but the kick ass part
he is a friend
but he is just really starting to scare me

[zoig]

OK, he clearly can't relate; you need to do something before he goes all norman bates on you.

Help is required for this guy, even if this guy is doing this because he obsesses about you there is a very strong chance that he's so unstable he really is going to harm you beyond psycological warfare.

You need to get him some help and you mom will just have to get her head round it... (Just why the bloody hell can't she find out about this anyhow???)

[DarkWingedAngel]

because im not even supposed to hang out with him
so how do you think she will take this news

[AutumnDae]

Well you seen like you don't want to be helped.

If you weren't hanging out with him and obeying your mother's wishes, I don't think you would be in this situation right now.

[The Batman]

Desi you came on asking for help, we gave you options, and you turned them all down. What do you really want?

[DarkWingedAngel]

but the thing is when he was on me touching me and everything
this feeling went all through me i don't no why but it did
im probably going to tell my mom in the car on the way to the states(im going for my birthday)
but now i got another question
why is it even when he tryed to rape me i got this good feeling all through my body
and i got wet
just want to know why

[Falk 'Ace' Flyer]

Because your body will respond to sexual behavior whether you want it to or not.

[DarkWingedAngel]

oh ok just wanted to know

[The Batman]

Desi my mom was raped inside a car a little more than 20 years ago and she can't drive a car without freaking out so she never does. This is not something play about if this guy really did rape you then you need to tell somone immediatealy.

[DarkWingedAngel]

he did not rape me he tried but i stopped him
now im just really afraid he will try agen and beat me

[Fiending_the_freedom]

you need to tell the police,
not just to stop him from doing it to you,
but so that he cant do it to anyone eles.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well i just broke the news to my mom
she is getting a restraining order
and reporting him to the cops
she grounded me but im still allowed to be on the net though

[Callwaiting]

WTF she grounded you?
After going through that I'd expect her to be more caring for you, has she talked to you about it or given you the opertunity to see a counseller yet? While it might not seem so terrible right now(from what I gathered from your post) it's very serious and ruins lives.

I think you should have a talk to her or another adult you trust as soon as you can.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well that is my mom for ya

[just-me]

you did the right thing. he needed to be stopped before he hurt you and other girls. well done. xx

[northskater110]

make sure to stay away from that guy.

even if he has a restraining order.

hes fucking scum, and should be put in jail.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well you see this is where it is hard to do
he is in my math class and sits in front of me
so he just turns around and starts to touch me
the teacher won't let me switch desks or else i would have done that already
but outside of math a will try to stay as far away from him as possible

[Aηdy]

If the teacher wont let you then go and ask someone higher up, like the head/deputy-head of the school. You don't need to tell them what happened, but just tell them you do not want to sit near that guy. They can't refuse to let you move.

[Oblivion]

Yeah seriously.
Either call the cops, tell your parents, or tell your teacher
If none of them listen, go to a school counselor
And if no one will move you, go to the freaking superintendent and ask them politely to fire your teacher and move you away from the rapist.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok
now one thing im worried agen
because tomorrow is Monday and he said he was gong to you no what with me
now i no i can resist but he is really strong
in lucky that did not already get raped by him
what do i do
because my mom won't be able to get the restraining order for some time

[Bobby]

Well I'm assuming this is going to happen at school...so tell a person on the faculty.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well he said ether right after school
or at lunch not on school property
so im scared shitless

[Oblivion]

Call. The. Police.
Or, bring a phone with you to school
If he comes near you, threaten to call 911
And if he touches you, or is about to, run and call 911 at the same time.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok
well i can't assume that he will go through with this or if he was just joking
bu i will bring a phone with me

[Aηdy]

When you're not in class, just make your you are where there are lots of people.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok
i will give you guys and update tomorrow
the thing with him is he chickens out
so it might never happen

[Oblivion]

You dont joke with stuff like this Desi.
If hes just joking, he needs to learn to stop,
If hes not, he needs to be in jail

So my advice, is to call the police now, and get it over with.

[Aηdy]

You still want to be on the safe side, and if he even lays a finger on you, you should tell someone in authority, or better still the police.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok thanks for the help guys
i will give you an update tomorrow after school

[DarkWingedAngel]

sorry for the double post

im just updating you on what happened today

in math i told the teacher
he did not believe me but Brandon over herd and was being a goody 2 shoes
after school he did try to rape me agen
i screamed at the top of my lungs rape(you would be surprised at how many people came running out of the school and there houses)

well now the school knows and is going to deal with him

so i will give you an update agen tomorrow after school

[zoig]

Well it that should do it.
Should have just contacted the police in the first place mind as the guy sounds like a AAA whack job.

[Oblivion]

sorry for the double post

im just updating you on what happened today

in math i told the teacher
he did not believe me but Brandon over herd and was being a goody 2 shoes
after school he did try to rape me agen
i screamed at the top of my lungs rape(you would be surprised at how many people came running out of the school and there houses)

well now the school knows and is going to deal with him

so i will give you an update agen tomorrow after school

Good job.
Next step: Get the asshole fired that didn't believe you.
Seriously, he needs to.... not handle kids. When someone mentions rape, you believe it.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok well just giving an update
the school got him suspended for trying to rape me ...... on school property
i don't know how long but he is.
the police got involved and talked to him and they said if he does it agen they will put him in a teen detention center(or something like that) and they said if touches me agen that they will deal with him.

[The Batman]

That doesn't make any sense. He would get expelled for trying to rape and the police would lock him up no questions asked since it happened more than once and he threatened you. The same thing happened at my school and the guy got arrested sent to juvenile for months.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well i don't know they would not tell me all the details
but i know for a fact they did not expel him
and keep in mind that you don't live where i do

[Nihilus]

Tell a adult if tries to do it agian.

[northskater110]

wow what a dick of a teacher. anywho, keep mace in ur purse or something. or a tazer!


why does it matter where you live? state laws prohibit rape, which is defined as FORCED SEX, which includes contact with any genitals.

[Oblivion]

What happened to the teacher?
Did you talk to the principal about him?

[Sapphire]

But no one ever really responds to someone screaming "rape", that's why they tell you to scream "fire" instead...

[DarkWingedAngel]

My friend told me to scream rape if he did that.
I'm going to talk to the principle about the teacher that did not believe me.

So I will give you an update after school.

[Sapphire]

That would only explain your friends rushing to your aid...

[Removed]

About the teacher he/she should get kicked out of work

[wavey]

First off, he might be confused, tell him your're not wanting to have a curiosity with him and he should leave u alone, if he continues, tel lthe principle about him not leaving u along and beating u up and otuching u, if he still doesnt stop, tell ur parents + ring th ecopts.

[AllThatIsLeft]

surprized about the teacher. Usually when a student tells them something like that is not about believing it or not.
They HAVE to report it, its a serious accusation and they cant take it lightly.

if the guy comes back, make sure your well away from him and always have company. If he ever tries to touch you again dont hesitate about reporting him.

also make sure he doesnt do it to someone else. sometimes this sicko stop with you and move on. You knowing what he's done should keep an eye open.

It's a lot to ask. but wouldn't u have liked if someone watched over you.

For now just try to get over the situation and stay the hell away from him.

[iceyfresh]

call the police!

[heretohelp]

Hi,
It's a huge step for you to speak to even us. I know it's not fair just remember that it's NOT your fault. Like the others here have said, It would be much better if you could tell a pearent or teacher or just someone you can really put your trust in. If you find yourself hiding in a hole and can't tell anyone in person, right a few letters. The first letter would be to you. Somethings you could write to yourself would be the feelings you have, the things you'd like to say to the person that did this to you and what you'll become after this. The second letter would be to the person who did this to you. Somethings you could write are, Why did you do this? What did I do to you? Is there really a reason? How could you do this to another person? At this stage you'll probably be thinking you woulden't want to give this person a letter. Which is fine, but right it anyway and seal it in an envolpoe. Later on in time you'll get it out. Lastley, right a letter to an adult or to someone you could trust deeply. Tell them how this affected you and what you want to become out of it.

All the best luck in the world to you, if you need any further help let me know. I'm here for you. That's what I do by choice. Keep your head high and you'll concure this thing.

[IrishJohnny28]

listen if its an embarassment issue DO NOT worry about it. she will ask you what happened and you need to tell her. what he did to you is wrong and if he was really worth being your friend then he wouldnt have done this to you. dont worry if the cops do get involved theres nothing he can do to you, they will keep you protected well enough. hope this helps! but i cant stress enough, you MUST tell some one what happened or it may just happen again.

[HeatherBreannaa]

Desi you came on asking for help, we gave you options, and you turned them all down. What do you really want?

I think it's mainly for attention or recognition...

This whole thing seems weird to me. I think she knows what to do about it if she really was raped or sexually assaulted. I think that the best advice has already been given a numerous amount of times and she apparently cannot do what was suggested. I have no other advice but to follow what has already been given.

well i don't know they would not tell me all the details
but i know for a fact they did not expel him
and keep in mind that you don't live where i do

And this makes absolutely no sense at all.
Where do you live?
A third world country where women are treated as if they were way below men?
Most places in the world are very similar in policies, especially when it comes to something as serious as this...

I don't think you are telling the truth to be quite honest.

[Atonement]

As requested by OP,
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