Not Another Showering Question

[Maxismax123]

So I went to the gym today, for my first time.

What was also my first time was showering publicly. The shower stalls are technically private, but changed is public. I wanted to know how I can kill time while waiting for my step-dad to get out of the shower so I can see him naked, and he can see me. Sorry if this is weird, or out of place. I just want to measure up.

[Ryandel]

It's kinda better to just ask him straight up. For if you do this, he might get some ideas about you.

[Maxismax123]

Good point, but asking him would be kind of weird. I'd rather sneak a little peak.

[Ryandel]

IT won't be that weird, especially since your just curious. But ya, better to ask him " Hey dad I was wondering, how i measured up and stuff" May be awkward. But better than your dad thinking something else than you being curious about your own development.

[Maxismax123]

Step-dad. If it was my real dad, I'd ask him in a second, but this is different.

[Ryandel]

Hmm, I guess this would be a little bit different for you are not direct connected. I'm not sure if it's best then to still "Sneak a peak" I'm still gonna advise to just ask.

[BlackBetty]

It's kinda better to just ask him straight up. For if you do this, he might get some ideas about you.

Who cares????? All he is, is your step dad.... It would be different if it was some one else.

[Ryandel]

Not everyone person has the same mentality. It's awkward for him and such. You can't just simply define every person to be as up front about these things.

[BlackBetty]

Not everyone person has the same mentality. It's awkward for him and such. You can't just simply define every person to be as up front about these things.

You have a point there.

[Maxismax123]

Yeah, but he wouldn't even give me a passing glance. He'd just undress as he would usually.

[pontiacdriver]

My view is that Ryandel was right in that the direct approach is best for you as sneaking a peak at your step father might create an awkward situation. I would tell your step father that you have some questions about puberty, and you are wondering if you can ask them about them. If approaching your step father is hard, then talk to your Mum and ask her to ask your step father on your behalf if you can talk to him about puberty. When you talk about puberty with your step father, then penis size is a fair question to ask. I would actually ask to see your step father's penis, but you can at least talk about size generally.

[MisterAndrews]

NO!! You shouldn't ask to see an older mans penis.... especially not your step dad. How awkward would that be.
"Hey dad, can i see your penis?"
It's just not a good idea.... asking questions is fine but comparing with your step dad is just strange. Sneak a peak if you must when he wont notice. If you want to compare and measure up find a friend that wants to aswell and use them.

[BlackBetty]

NO!! You shouldn't ask to see an older mans penis.... especially not your step dad. How awkward would that be.
"Hey dad, can i see your penis?"
It's just not a good idea.... asking questions is fine but comparing with your step dad is just strange. Sneak a peak if you must when he wont notice. If you want to compare and measure up find a friend that wants to aswell and use them.

You are in a changing room... Just take a peak...

[jdude]

i agree. i would probably ask.

[Neverender]

i agree. i would probably ask.

but there is one problem. asking would create a VERY awkward moment, that extends for days because he LIVES WITH THE MAN.


he should just take a quick peek when his step dad isn't noticing

[Cristiann123]

i aggre 49.50 % with both sides (49.50 + 49.50 = 99) the other 1 percent is my idea. if maxismax were to ask his step-dad to compare then he might or might not, later then step dad would tell mom that maxismax asked him to compare then mom would either just be laid back mom and just think maxismax is going through puberty and let it slide, or mom could be protective mom and worry that maxismax is curious bi/gay then have
"the talk". mom would still be worried about him ask her friends about it and moms friends would tell their kids and those kids would tell everyone and the next day he goes into school, everyone starts avoiding him, or makes fun of him.



Now honestly, what seems more risky and dangerous, sneek peak or straight up asking???:confused:

[thecanjump]

i bet one of your friends got to be curious too so you could see if a friend would.
(just another option)

[Justin16]

Step-dad. If it was my real dad, I'd ask him in a second, but this is different.Well a step dad or even a real dad ain't a good comparison.

1. Your step dad has totally different genetics to you;
2. He is likely much older than you (unless your mom loves young guys).

You're better off asking an older brother (if you have one) or a really good friend you can trust.

[sirma]

Totally agree with Justin16

[Justin16]

Totally agree with Justin16So do I. :D