Just asking all opinoins... =0

[silentc0re]

this is what i have to say
I know this girl i want to go out with.
I talked to her a bit and then i asked her out.
She said "no were just freinds" i gave her my facebook and all of a sudden she talks to me a lot were going to talk on AIM
what should i talk to her about?
When should time be alright to ask her out?
What would you guys to in my position?
How do i flirt with her?
Sry they might be stupid questions but i really want to go out with her (not talking in a desperate way)

Please, Help before i have to talk to her.

[Avalikia]

I happen to be friends with a guy who's in that exact situation - with me. I don't like him as anything more than a friend, and there's absolutely nothing he could do about it. I'm just not attracted to him in that way. He's told me that he's "madly in love" with me, but what am I supposed to do about it? I mean I care about him, but only in the same way I care about my brothers. It's not like I can start feeling romantic feelings just because he wants me to. He's tried asking me out and flirting with me, but that just makes things awkward. It would be wrong of me to accept a date because that would only lead him on, and when he flirts with me it's like my brother flirting with me... You see, his feelings put me in a terrible position. Perhaps you could tell her that you're very interested in her, but you respect the fact she doesn't feel the same way so you want her to tell you if her feelings change; I've promised my friend that I'll tell him if my feelings ever change; there's nothing else I can do.

But he's learned, and you must learn, to deal with the situation. Not everyone you're attracted to is attracted back - that's life. If that's too hard for you, you could always break off all contact, but if my friend did that we wouldn't be best friends now and that's a loss even by itself.

[silentc0re]

ok ty for your post. Can u plz tell me what flirting is and how to flirt with a female? Lol

[staying_alive]

flirting is the natural way for teenagers to communicate these days. just playful conversations with your desired sex is enough to be considered flirting. but once you learn others' preferences, you can take it a bit farther - some girls (or guys) are really good with touching, just playful movements etc. For example, i've got a girl currently that i'm falling for, and i can tickle her, put my arm around her, etc. It all depends on what exactly this particular girl wants.

In your position, however, i would not pull these moves. At all. Depending on your relationship right now, you need to gain back a certain trust that allows flirting with friends, and [maybe] future girlfriends. Just ease into it a little bit, and relax! Flirting will come naturally, i wouldn't be surprised if you've already been doing it without realizing.

[byee]

She's told you 'No', so i'd recommend not asking her out.

Use the time with her to hang out, just socialize without any real objective here, other than to have fun. if you don't know what to say, ask questions and let her talk.