The Older Guy...

[xDream_x]

Hi, i'm new to this so here goes..
I know an older guy. He's 18, i'm 14. We have known each other for about three years, we were great friends for the first couple of years but then I began to fancy him. Turns out the attraction went both ways...
But he has hurt me so many times, he screws me around..lied to me, and part of me wanders if he only wants to go out with me because i'm younger than him, and he wants to 'teach' me everything. A while back we had a nasty fall out. Long story short it came down to, we had to be just friends or nothing. I chose nothing. A few weeks later his best friend was in a serious car accident and is now in hospital facing the fact he will never walk again. So here I am being the shoulder to cry on and he tells me that he loves me. And as much as i THINK i love him, i'm 14 and don't believe I can really know right now. Everything is shouting me to stay away from him, he's older, pressuring and always wants sexual conversations that I can't give him.
Point is, he's moving soon an hour or so away, not far but far enough that I want to decide what I'm going to do before he leaves.
Do I follow my heart and go out with him?
Or do I steer clear and avoid any risk or getting hurt?
PLEASE HELP!
Sorry for the long post..
Thanks xDream_x

[Donkey]

4 years age difference is a lot at your age, I don't think it's a good idea; he may be taking advantage of you. If you really actually love him and think he's not taking advantage of you, it's your choice, but yes, you could get hurt because people you know might think it is wrong and think of you differently because of it. I don't think something like this will last, either so I don't suggest you do. But, hey, it's your choice what you do in life and no one can tell you what to do if you don't want to. It may sound cheesy, but, follow your heart :P

[byee]

You already know the answer to this! You should say good bye and let go.

Yeah, the age diff is significant, you both have diff needs based on your diff maturity, but perhaps morte importantly, he doesn't really treat you well. You're hanging on b/c you have noithing/no one else, and as they say, 'it;s better than nothing'. But it's not.

Let go, say good bye, don't let the current crisis of a friend in hospital or his moving away make you feel more open to doing something that's based more on the discomfort of vulnerability rather than true love. True love doesn't hurt the way it seems to now.

[Halibut]

Wow, you sound really mature for your age. I think he had to grow up before he can have any really relationship. No matter what the age. I think he is taking advantage of the fact that you are 14. 4 years is ok, but there has to be a huge level of maturity and trust. By the looks of what he has done, he does not sound that trusting. and without that, what kind of relationship could you too have. If he really loved you, he would never had played around with other people nor would he have let the relationship end so easily.
Goodluck :)