Pathetic?

[BlackenedSilver]

I was just talking to my friend on msn about my SH, because she wanted to know more about it. (She is a girl I have never actually met before, I met her over myspace) And she has know about all his for a while but today, she kinda made me feel like I have no reason to SH and im being pathetic.. which I thought anyway but she just confirmed it.
She said Im doing it over silly little things that every teenager goes through and maybe she is right. She says that her life is worse and that she hasn turned to SH yet and she never will.. But most of her things are rooted thtough other peole as well.. but mine always seem to come back to me.
I do it over the stress of life basically.. Im always pressured to be perfect in my life.. and If im not I get constantly yelled at throughout the day. And my parents will yell at me for almost anything but they dont seem to care when they know what Im doing to myself. and My friends are the same. Then I have an overall self hatred.. I hate who I am, what I do and how I look.. but its alot more than hate its like when Im doing my makeup in the morning I cant even look in the mirror without crying or getting an uncontrolable urge to hurt myself.

Does anyone agree with my friend.. am I being pathetic?

Please help. This is really tearing me up. Its really making me feel totally
useless in everyway possible now.

Sorry If I babbled. :(

[Avalikia]

Well, part of this is true. Some people go through just as many hard things or even harder things than you and never self harm. However, a person can't go through anything tough without a coping strategy of some sort. Some coping strategies like talking to other people, relaxation techniques, etc. are good and healthy, others like cutting are not. But nobody is so immune from the world that they never have to use them and, though it's hard for me to guess at the percentages, a large portion turn to a bad coping strategy first. Your friend may not self-harm, but she could also have any number of other bad coping strategies without even realizing it. So just because someone who's going through the same things as you doesn't cut, it doesn't automatically mean that they're handling it any better than you are.

[Rutherford The Brave]

No sweety, I do not think your pathetic. Because it takes a strong person to come out about self harming. There is not way you could ever be pathetic, your smart, but your just going through some rough times. Don't let anyone get to you hun.

[Hyper]

SH is well in a sense pathetic

Are you pathetic? No you have problems everybody does and people deal with their problems in many ways and different people take pain less or more than others.

But hating yourself wont get you anywhere, you can never look good or be anywhere near perfect if you hate yourself. Thats problably one of the hardest things to break

But its absolutely wrong to hate yourself

If you don't care for yourself don't expect others too, its a harsh reality but the world can be very beatiful :P

Well I went on a rant I hope you got anything out of this people are different their problems are different and you can't really weigh emotion.

I hope you take care of yourself

[BlackenedSilver]

Thanks alot.. its made me feel better about what she said last night. But its also made me wanna try ALOT harder to stop. I cant go on like that, I need to start handling things.

Thanks you! :hug2:

[Triceratops]

You are NOT pathetic and this girl is completely clueless to how true self-harmers think act and deal with situations and emotions.
If someone was implying that I'm being pathetic over self-harming, I wouldn't f***ing stand for it! I would rip their freaking heads off >__> literally. I hate people who are so judgemental like that.

Someone like me, who has been self-harming for about 4 years running would totally undertand another self-harmers point of view because self-harming can seem like the only place to turn to and it can be so addictive.

So my advice is, ignore her. If you want help go to a counsiller, don't listen to a stupid girl over msn.