Annoying

[tehgamer]

Hi all, I'm almost 14 and I'm probably three quarters of the way through puberty. I can produce semen, my voice is breaking, I'm starting to get pubic hairs and black hairs on my legs etc. I was in a a sex-ed class the other day and my teacher said sexuality is determined by how many hormones are produced when you're being made or something like that. I'm the kind of person who worries quite abit about the smallest of things, it's terrible. (I inhaled some dust one day and thought I had lung cancer!)

This worried me abit, because I absolutely don't want to turn out gay. I'm not doubting my sexuality but if my teacher puts it that way I could turn out gay due to the making of me (it sounds stupid). I get turned on by girls kissing, hugging me and have never felt unsatisfied kissing, touching or being touched by a girl. I've never been curious or anything like that with the same sex. I'm just concerned about this. Call it homophobic but I cringe at the thought of anything sexually gay related I think it's disusting, if a guy tried to come onto me I'd punch him in the face.


Also when I was younger (12-13) I used to get erect over very easy things girl related -cleavages, boobs or even asses. But now I don't it has to go much deeper than just that to get my erect, does this mean I've gained self control? I've done stuff with girls and the arousal levels are really high (even more from watching videos, I have a bubbling feeling in my prostates have butterflies all over), so again I'm not doubting just being pathetic.

Thanks!

[Requin]

I think you have a case of puberty. Welcome to it.
Ok. I think you misheard your teacher or something. Your sexuality is not determined by how many hormones that you have. In fact people aren't really sure how you get your sexuality. But, since you said that you enjoy kissing and hugging girls, your probably not gay.
You can't be gay if you don't find men attractive. And if you don't. YOUR NOT GAY.
It's that simple. You say you haven't been curious so again, your not gay. And probably won't be, as most teenagers go through the curious phase at some stage in puberty.

But your one of the lucky ones. Your teacher was either wrong, or you misheard.

If you want to read more about sexuality, which you should, go here. (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=18215)

[Mzor203]

At this point in your life, if you were gay, you probably would have started to have feelings for other guys already. Now, that's not necessarily going tobe the case all the time, but I'd say that if you haven't felt any feelings or attractions for boys, you are all right for now...

It still could turn out that you are gay, though. It is true that your sexuality is determined at birth. A lot of teenagers will go through phases where they really can't determine their sexual identity, but from the beginning it is always engraved in you.

So if you ever start to think you're gay, hole out for a while and see what happens, chances are you're going through a phase.

[tehgamer]

Thanks for the reply, that's definitely what I heard. He even slipped in a comment saying "...so one of you guys could be gay" which I found disrespectful.

I can look at a good looking guy (according to girls) and never feel the same why I do when I look at models like Lucy Pinder for example lol.

When we're in the toilets I can see out of the corner of my eye my friends looking at me but I've never turned my head once.

[Requin]

Your teacher is probably right, for once.
Aparently 1 in 10 people are gay.
Aparently...

[tehgamer]

Celeritas, I'm not worried about I might be gay because I'm not. I'm worrying about if I turn out gay. Because apparently puberty goes on for awhile

[Requin]

You won't 'turn' gay like that.
You don't wake up one day going, 'Oh, I fancy men'
It happens over a period of time. So don't worry, because you'll just be forcing yourself into something that you don't want.

[tehgamer]

Your teacher is probably right, for once.
Aparently 1 in 10 people are gay.
Aparently...

Maybe.

The sexual desires for girls are definitely there, when I make out with a girl I have the instinct to take it further and I want to take it further. (like unstrapping her bra etc). So I don't know why I'm thinking like this if I'm absolutely confident I'm straight.

I've also been feeling all over the place lately, I find myself on youtube looking for boob slips and googling "topless" for all my favourte female celebrities and my friends have noticed I've been making sexual innuendos over the slightest things and I never even notice. My eyes also now selotape themselves to girl's butts and boobs and I've also been getting pretty wild with girls too, it's just crazy I feel like I'm being controlled.

[tehgamer]

Also I want to make it clear I only contemplate on these things when I'm alone. When I'm talking or hanging out with girls it don't even cross my mind. Is this telling me I need a girlfriend?


sorry about the double post i just have so many questions about puberty because i've never had so many things pop up at once.

[Mzor203]

There's really not much we can do for you if you know you aren't gay, but still have these thoughts. From what you've said, I seriously doubt you are gay at all. Maybe having a girlfriend can help, but maybe you've just got to stop thinking about it and tell yourself that you aren't gay... because you obviously aren't.

[Θάνατος]

You are not gay by the way you have talked here. I would not worry about it, I don't think you will be turning gay in the future. There is a time in every one's lives when the hormones get out of control and and you have feelings of being gay. that is completely normal even if you completely straight.

Good luck with finding a girl friend, it takes time and don't just rush into a relationship because you want one. Take it slow and the right girl will come around.

[Neverender]

Hi all, I'm almost 14 and I'm probably three quarters of the way through puberty. I can produce semen, my voice is breaking, I'm starting to get pubic hairs and black hairs on my legs etc. I was in a a sex-ed class the other day and my teacher said sexuality is determined by how many hormones are produced when you're being made or something like that. I'm the kind of person who worries quite abit about the smallest of things, it's terrible. (I inhaled some dust one day and thought I had lung cancer!)

This worried me abit, because I absolutely don't want to turn out gay. I'm not doubting my sexuality but if my teacher puts it that way I could turn out gay due to the making of me (it sounds stupid). I get turned on by girls kissing, hugging me and have never felt unsatisfied kissing, touching or being touched by a girl. I've never been curious or anything like that with the same sex. I'm just concerned about this. Call it homophobic but I cringe at the thought of anything sexually gay related I think it's disusting, if a guy tried to come onto me I'd punch him in the face.


Also when I was younger (12-13) I used to get erect over very easy things girl related -cleavages, boobs or even asses. But now I don't it has to go much deeper than just that to get my erect, does this mean I've gained self control? I've done stuff with girls and the arousal levels are really high (even more from watching videos, I have a bubbling feeling in my prostates have butterflies all over), so again I'm not doubting just being pathetic.

Thanks!

wow. you've asked many of the questions that are very easy to answer. bravo. i only have to spend 5 minutes on this thread.

starting:

1. Sexuality may be determined by hormones in the womb. but im not sure and i don't feel like checking it out. if your not having any curiosities or any emotioan or physical urges for guys, your not gay.

2. (this is a little joke, don't bash me for it.) if you thought dust was lung cancer, what did you do when you saw that "Asbestos can cause a rare lung cancer called Mesothelioma" commercial?..lol

3. well theres no need to be homophobic on this site, we cant come onto you, chances are, we're hundreds of miles away on the other end of a fiber optic cable:)

4. Hormones, b'y. In the early stages of puberty, when there is a large hormone imbalance, etc. can cause you to be physically attracted to another guy, make your voice crack terribly, and especially make you have spontaneous boners. from anything from a slight sexual thought, to a picture or looking at a chick, or a light brushing to the penis from an object(like a hand from a person walking by), to just randomly having a boner in class. its normal. don't worry. it's not lung cancer causing those boners.

[MisterAndrews]

Hi, im studying A level Psychology and its now believed that orientation is determined in the womb. The mothers body reacts to the testosterone in her womb when she has a boy and if you have an older brother this can cause hormone imbalance, which means that you are more likely to be turned on by people of the same sex.

You dont seem gay from what you have posted. You CANNOT just become gay, its not something you become its something you are. You have no control over this what so ever so you might aswell just stop worrying.

[byee]

Your teacher is a moron.

There's no scientific proof of any of the things that make someone gay, or straight, for that matter. There are a lot of theories, some of which are appealing, but no real proof. We simply so not know how these things occur. Your teacher, at the very least (and given the sensitivity of the topic and his pubescent audience) should have made that very clear. Talking about sexuality is OK, but as an authority, he has the responsibility to present all sides of the current understanding of the topic and in a way that informs, but not alarms. Your teacher has failed here. A pox on him.

I agree with the really sound advice you're getting here from our members. Your sexuality is very complicated, and no one can really tell you what you are. However, by know, there'd be some indication if you were gay, and in the absence of that awareness, you're probably not.