Gumleaf
October 27th, 2008, 02:20 AM
Breaking up a relationship can be a very emotional time for both people involved. But regardless of the circumstances it is often heart breaking for at least one person involved and for the person doing the breaking up, it can leave them feeling rather bad or even guilty. But the good news is, there are some ways to try and ease the pain and to help you move on.
- The first thing you need to do is accept that the relationship is over. Being in denial and hoping things will go back to how they were will only add to the pain you are already feeling. By accepting things are over, the healing process can begin for you.
- Once you accept that the relationship is over, the healing process can begin. There is nothing wrong with showing emotion such as crying or having a deep and meaningful talk with a good friend. The important thing to do is not to blame yourself and find reasons to doubt yourself. Remember, because this relationship hasn't worked out, doesn't mean that the perfect person for you isn't out there. The least you can do is begin is give yourself the best possible chance of being happy again.
- The next thing to do is to allow yourself time to let the healing process happen. Use the spare time you now have to connect with friends, family or other loved ones. Being around people who love you will help heal that pain and help you to move on and focus on those positive things in your life. An important thing to remember is not to allow these emotions you are feeling to cause you to hit the rebound and get involved in another relationship before the healing is complete. Getting involved in new relationships on the rebound usually cause more pain, because they aren't based on real feelings, but the emotions of someone showing you love and support when you need it.
- Some people say revenge is sweet. Although you might think that taking revenge will make you feel better, it might not be the best move. Revenge is likely to stir up the negative thoughts again and would cause a bump in the road of the healing process. In the end, plotting revenge isn't going to change things and won't take the pain away, so really, why bother?
- The last thing to remember is that time is the best healer. Speeding the healing process up will only cause setbacks. Let your heart heal like a cut on your finger or a scratch on your knee. Healing will happen naturally and only takes time.
Once the healing process is over with, hopefully you will find that you can move into another relationship and be happy without carrying the emotional baggage from before.
- The first thing you need to do is accept that the relationship is over. Being in denial and hoping things will go back to how they were will only add to the pain you are already feeling. By accepting things are over, the healing process can begin for you.
- Once you accept that the relationship is over, the healing process can begin. There is nothing wrong with showing emotion such as crying or having a deep and meaningful talk with a good friend. The important thing to do is not to blame yourself and find reasons to doubt yourself. Remember, because this relationship hasn't worked out, doesn't mean that the perfect person for you isn't out there. The least you can do is begin is give yourself the best possible chance of being happy again.
- The next thing to do is to allow yourself time to let the healing process happen. Use the spare time you now have to connect with friends, family or other loved ones. Being around people who love you will help heal that pain and help you to move on and focus on those positive things in your life. An important thing to remember is not to allow these emotions you are feeling to cause you to hit the rebound and get involved in another relationship before the healing is complete. Getting involved in new relationships on the rebound usually cause more pain, because they aren't based on real feelings, but the emotions of someone showing you love and support when you need it.
- Some people say revenge is sweet. Although you might think that taking revenge will make you feel better, it might not be the best move. Revenge is likely to stir up the negative thoughts again and would cause a bump in the road of the healing process. In the end, plotting revenge isn't going to change things and won't take the pain away, so really, why bother?
- The last thing to remember is that time is the best healer. Speeding the healing process up will only cause setbacks. Let your heart heal like a cut on your finger or a scratch on your knee. Healing will happen naturally and only takes time.
Once the healing process is over with, hopefully you will find that you can move into another relationship and be happy without carrying the emotional baggage from before.