Confidence

[monkey_man]

:wub:I have a girlfriend, first serious girlfriend:wub:

I'm 16, shes 16. We are both the first serious GF BF we have both had. Now, i really like her, she really likes me. But when I'm with her, i have absolutely no confidence. It comes to the point where i can barely even talk to her, because I'm so nervous. We have had our first kiss, she kissed me. But now every time i want to kiss her, i get totally nervous and cannot do it.

Does anyone have any advice on how to be more confident??

Any advice from people like me, how u got over it?

[Θάνατος]

Just let it happen naturally. Don't try to force anything. Don't think about kissing her. The more you two are around each other the more comfortable you will get. Just relax.

[monkey_man]

ok thanks, any other ideas?

[byee]

Throw salt over your left shoulder on the second Tuesday of every month for 3 months, followed by burying a fish (preferably one without the letter 'R' in it) in your back yard, facing east.

Ok, OK. I think Rob's advice is really it, you have to give it some time. You're nervous b/c it's all new and you realize howm important it is, and don't have the experience to have developed confidence. Sorry to say, there's no magic formula to gain that confidence other than time and continued positive feedback from her that she likes you, too. Maybe consider talking with her about your nervousness, that might get you the reassurance you need. And, will help her understand the nervousness you must be communicating to her non verbally.

Good luck, stay with it, relax, and talk with her about it. Love is fun.

[monkey_man]

i have talked to her about it and she keeps on helping me to try and fight my nervousness. She has told me how one action wont make her not like me, and all that, but im still really nervous. I guess i was just trying to share my feelings and experience, hoping someone has had the same problem as me, and hopefully gotten over it. Ohh well, i guess times the only answer.

Anyone else, feel free to comment