Breaking up

[bud2.0]

my girlfriend broke up with me and i was mad because we had been going out for 6 months and i am not a very social so i hope that i could get another girlfriend. sorry for getting off topic what I'm trying to say is that she said she just wants to be friends but in my mind i want to be in a relationship or nothing because it would be weird after frenching a lot. can some on please help me. i found out from one of her friends that she sort of thought i was getting annoying and like that's not new to me lots of people tell me that like on a daily basis. does anyone have any advice :confused::eek::confused::eek::confused:

[Θάνατος]

Well just relax. If a lot of people are saying that you are annoying then you might want to find out why you are annoying them.

I wish you luck. Let me know how it goes.

[byee]

Ouch! Sorry for your loss.

A lot of people say theyu want to be 'just friends' after a break up, but it's really hard for a lot of people, esp. if you're the one who didn't want the relationship to end. If you're more comfortable with 'all or nothing' (as a lot of people are), then it should be 'nothing' if she doesn't want to get back together.

Keep in mind that the risk in going out is that you're vulnerable to break up, and when that happens, as painful as it is, there's not much you can do, other than feel bad, let go, and look elsewhere for a better realtionship.

[Avalikia]

If it would be too hard for you to be "just friends" with her, then don't. It's usually the person who breaks off the relationship that wants this, usually just to make themselves feel better about the whole thing. But being friends with someone who you used to date can be really tough and if there's no good reason to be friends other than that's what she wants (e.g. if you don't share a lot of friends or you're not going to see her much).

Now you may want to find out why people might find you annoying, but only if you're pretty comfortable with yourself. Sometimes people find other people annoying due to something they can easily change but don't tell them to be polite. But other times people find other people annoying due to personality traits or other things that you can't change very easily or at all, so unless you know you can handle finding out that other people find you annoying due to something you can't do anything about then you probably shouldn't ask the question. Note: Anytime someone annoys others due to something they can't change, you can always find other people who actually like it. Like I have a really hard time being tactful (except when I'm writing) and some people find this annoying, but I've met plenty of other people who actually like how I say exactly what I think.

[bud2.0]

well i just wish i could get another girlfriend soon because i went to the movies and i was basically a seventh wheel because my 2 cousins and my sister all had a date and i was all alone. ugh



Now you may want to find out why people might find you annoying, but only if you're pretty comfortable with yourself. Sometimes people find other people annoying due to something they can easily change but don't tell them to be polite. But other times people find other people annoying due to personality traits or other things that you can't change very easily or at all, so unless you know you can handle finding out that other people find you annoying due to something you can't do anything about then you probably shouldn't ask the question. Note: Anytime someone annoys others due to something they can't change, you can always find other people who actually like it. Like I have a really hard time being tactful (except when I'm writing) and some people find this annoying, but I've met plenty of other people who actually like how I say exactly what I think.

i think it might be because I'm a smart ass and i can't help not trying to answer questions

[bud2.0]

can some one help she sent me an e mail saying she would like to try again in a few months should i do it

[byee]

Try again in a few months?! Wait and see how you feel about her then.

[bud2.0]

i just can't wait a few months i am still madly in love with her and she's in 2 of my classes and in one of them she sits right next to me

[Halibut]

get over her :)

[ThatCanadianGuy]

get over her :)

You obviously have NO idea how guys are (when they're actually serious about a relationship). It's not like that's really gonna help :rolleyes:

I do wish you luck with getting back together (if that is what SHOULD happen). But if not then good luck finding someone else... there ARE plenty of fish in the sea as they say. Just be yourself and do "whatever you did" that got you this girlfriend before. Hopefully it will work again? :)

[bud2.0]

i am just gonna permanently break it off