Best friend wants to marry her BF

[Lennonism]

Hi again,

everything has been going fairly well at school, but there's a minor problem. You see, my best friend is crazy for her boyfriend. She's told me she hopes to get married soon (She's only 14), and she goes around telling everyone she's engaged to him. I pointed at that you can't get engaged in this state until you're 18, and she said that she wasn't legally engaged yet. Then she said she wanted to marry her boyfriend, and then get the paperwork signed when she's 18.

Now, I'm not trying to throw a wrench into this or anything, but she's my best friend, and I don't want her to act too soon. She may not like this guy in a few months (They've been together for a few years, but you never know...), so I want her to wait before she does anything drastic. I don't love her, but I want whats best for her. They may very well be in love for all I know, but I'm afraid she may get tired of him after they've done all this crazy stuff, but it'll be too late. I mean, you never know when love is going to end.

Maybe it's none of my business, I don't know. Maybe I should just not say anything. Should I try to talk her out of acting too soon, or should I just keep my mouth shut?

[rsc4life]

Well, I think it seems sorta premature. I mean, I don't think you need to step in, they can't get legally engaged for a while. So either two things will probably happen.

A. They will break up.

B. They will really love each other, and get engaged.

But to me, it sounds like regular teenage getting-ahead-of-yourself syndrome.

[The Batman]

It's really up to her and there's not much you can do so let her go through this on her own. Odds are they'll break up but still if she wants to plan the wedding now why stop her.

[byee]

Yes, the right answer is to keep your mouth shut. She's not saying all this to get your opinion, she's saying it to express her love for, and hopes with, her boyfriend. She's sharing a hope, a fantasy. Not reality. So, you might smile when she speaks of her hopes, and maybe reflect back to her how much she must really love him.

[Zephyr]

This sort of thing happens ALL the time.
Young love gets confused for true love,
And when the first real fight or problem comes along,
They're back to being single.

Dont' worry about it.
She'll come to eventaully.
Of course, you never know.
It could work out as well,
But in the mean time,
Just be a friend to her.

[Hyper]

Yes, the right answer is to keep your mouth shut. She's not saying all this to get your opinion, she's saying it to express her love for, and hopes with, her boyfriend. She's sharing a hope, a fantasy. Not reality. So, you might smile when she speaks of her hopes, and maybe reflect back to her how much she must really love him.

I stand by this

Especially keep your mouth shut and smile

[nachtspiegel]

You don't really know what's going to happen.
If it were your relationship, would you want someone giving you a legal lesson every five seconds?

[Halibut]

wow this is a pretty touchy topic. i would let her think it through. and if they are togeathe that long.then maybe they are ment to be. Im sure she will grow and realize what she is saying.