what defines

[krystalm]

what defines rape?

i started seeing this guy, at first it was innocent, but probably the third or fourth time he started getting physical, and then he started putting his hands up my shirt... he then went on feeling me up, then he asked if we could have sex and i said no, and i told him i had my period... then he kept kissing and feeling me up and kept asking if we could have sex, and i kept saying no... i don't understand what he didn't get, then he said well at least let me take of your pants because it's hurting me (obviously he got himself naked) so i obliged, but then he kept asking me and pressing himself into me (not my vagina) apparently to show me how good it'd feel? and all of a sudden i couldn't talk. i just layed there and he went inside me..like i couldn't scream my body was just shaking, and he knew i was so uncomfortable, but he didn't stop until i finally regained motion and started crying, and he decided to calm me down.. but went back in for the kill :( i saw him twice after that and we had sex on both occasions, and the whole entire time i kept thinking, is it rape if you stay silent, if your body won't let you talk, if all you can do is cry?

because it has effected me so much... i'm can't trust anyone anymore, i've become increasingly violent, im more anxious, my depression is just getting worse and i don't know what to do.. hoenstly i'm so lost. and i guess that's why i came back.. hello vt, it's been a while.

[byee]

Welcome back, Krystal. I'm sorry this has happened for you.

'Rape' is defined by most reasonable people as forceable intercourse OR intercourse that occurs without your consent (like if you were asleep). I think your circumstance qualifies, unfortunately. 'No' means 'No', you clearly said that. This guy is a selfish scumbag. You should, at the very elast, not see him or be with him anymore.

I'd strongly recommend you talk about this with your therapist, to get some needed support, to get some counselling on what to do, to hear of your legal and medical options. Don't go thru this alone, and don't see him again!

[Donkey]

It's rape, as IAMSAM said. But I'd also like to add you should contact the police. This guy is a dick and should be banged up.

[JoshDude]

If you say 'no', and he kept going, then yes it is rape. You should contact police or somebody else who can help out.

[just-me]

i agree with IAMSAM, bring it up with your therapist and get the support you desserve, dont suffer in silence, im very sorry to hear of this though and its idiots (to put it lightly) like that who can ruin peoples lives. you may want to consider calling the police even if you dont want to, for anyone else he my hurt in the future also, but thats your decision. *hugs*

[nachtspiegel]

I believe that it is rape.
You need to take action against this scumbag before has the opportunity to hurt you again, and before he can hurt anyone else.

[krystalm]

oh don't worry, we broke up a month ago, we dated for only a couple of weeks, the thing is

i feel bad for HIM.
and i don't want to get authority into it,
or my family or my counselor
so i'm not telling anyone
until i turn 18
because i don't want them to press
charges
and i feel bad for him :(
kadfuhv;adfv

but like it gets to me, it hurts because i WAS a virgin and i told him no and then i get to thhis point where i blame myself because maybe i didn't say it clearly enough.. i just don't know what i can do or if there is anything i can do, because i just feel so sorry for him.. but he took such a big part of me. and i still talk to him.. and he complains about his life and i want to just kill him but i can't i just listen and say sorry over and over again. and he doesn't even know how much he affected me :/

[just-me]

i dont understand you feeling sorry for him, if im personally onest. but what i do know is you shouldnt blame yourself, none of this is your fault, no is no at the end of the day. seriously you did nothing wrong.
if you dont want to press charges, fine, but DONT blame yourself, onestly you did nothin wrong and i cant strain that enough

[krystalm]

Well he has really bad depression and is always in and out of the hospital adn I don't know i'm an idiot.