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[smartkidd]

okay there's this girl. I really like her and she likes me too. The only problem is she's not a virgin and i know if we start datin she'll want sex. But i can't go through with that but I really like her. HELP!!!

[Oblivion]

If you want to date her, but not have sex, either avoid sexual moments with her, or plainly say you aren't ready for sex once you start dating.

[The Air Guitar Man13]

If you want to date her, but not have sex, either avoid sexual moments with her, or plainly say you aren't ready for sex once you start dating.

I agree

[JoshDude]

Yeah, just state you arent ready for sex. She should hopefully understand and leave it untill you are ready.

[Aηdy]

Just talk to her about it, that's what I do. Find out what she wants and tell her what you want. If she's a decent enough girl she'll be happy with not having sex just yet.

[Random_oso06]

ya dude she won't want to have sex the day you date her most everyone knows that they want there first to be special so maybe she want to talk get to her first

[BlackenedSilver]

I agree, if you tell her your not ready yet then if she likes you enough she will wait for you to be ready. If she doesnt want to wait for you then she most likely doesnt like you enough. You dont have to do anything you dont want to, its your body and your choice.
And how do you Know she will definately want sex.. she could be regretting her first time and want her second to be special.

[Requin]

Just tell her your not ready yet. If she has any sense she'll understand. So anyway good luck with her and i hope things work out the best for you. :-)

[MoveAlong]

If she likes you then she won't care about this sex thing and she will wait. If she does care then she is a bitch. Pretty simple.
If you're not ready yet then she should understand. If she doesn't she's not the one for you.

[pontiacdriver]

okay there's this girl. I really like her and she likes me too. The only problem is she's not a virgin and i know if we start datin she'll want sex. But i can't go through with that but I really like her. HELP!!!

Sex is a two way street, and as the others have correctly mentioned, you should not do anything with which you are not comfortable. If sex is not something for which you are ready, then no one, not even your girlfriend, has any right to force you to do so. You are not some sort of freak for desiring to wait as you yourself need to be 100% comfortable with engaging in sexual activity and should not engage in sex just because external pressures. You can definitely have a meaningful relationship with someone with having engaging in sexual activity, and if this girl cannot respect that, then she is not worth your time. You probably should let your preference regarding sexual activity be known upfront so that this girl will have realistic expectations of your relationship and will know where the limits are.

Finally, if you two ever become sexually active absolutely do not have sex with her until she has a STD test. Whenever you have sex with someone who has had other partners you have the right to know if they are clean as sharing your body is a major step. Likewise, when you have sexual partners and if you are not a virgin at that point, then you should have a STD test out of courtesy to that person.

[The Pretender]

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[lilpaintballer10]

Ugh i have the same problem...My girl is not a virgin and she wants to have sex with me and asks whenever she gets a chance..I want to also but the problem is that im 17 and a senior but my penis has not grown hardly at all or my balls..my dick is about 4 1/2 inches erect and 2 inches in girth i kno they may sound like i could be done but just have a tiny penis but i know for sure this is not the case.I started puberty when i was about 15 and my voice has gotten deeper but i dont kno if its fully deepened or not and i have i good amount of pubic hair but only a little bit of armpit hair..I have some facial hair. This is soo embarrasing ive been mentally ready for sex for about a year now. And not to like brag at all or anything but a decent amount of girls like me and ive had many chances to have sex within the past year but ive had to make some lame excuses too avoid it ..Also im like avergage height and size for my age around 5'10 145lb but i look about 15 years old..There is soo much pressure for sex and i want too soo bad any1 know if there is any medicine or medical treatment that could help speed this up.. its very hard to deal with especially when almost all of my friends have had sex

[broadwaydude]

i think this should be moved to general questions so maybe a girls opinion might chnag esomething

[Donkey]

Ugh i have the same problem...My girl is not a virgin and she wants to have sex with me and asks whenever she gets a chance..I want to also but the problem is that im 17 and a senior but my penis has not grown hardly at all or my balls..my dick is about 4 1/2 inches erect and 2 inches in girth i kno they may sound like i could be done but just have a tiny penis but i know for sure this is not the case.I started puberty when i was about 15 and my voice has gotten deeper but i dont kno if its fully deepened or not and i have i good amount of pubic hair but only a little bit of armpit hair..I have some facial hair. This is soo embarrasing ive been mentally ready for sex for about a year now. And not to like brag at all or anything but a decent amount of girls like me and ive had many chances to have sex within the past year but ive had to make some lame excuses too avoid it ..Also im like avergage height and size for my age around 5'10 145lb but i look about 15 years old..There is soo much pressure for sex and i want too soo bad any1 know if there is any medicine or medical treatment that could help speed this up.. its very hard to deal with especially when almost all of my friends have had sex
Talk to your GP if you are concerned.

[lilpaintballer10]

I want to but i just feel really embarrassed

[Requin]

Don't be it's their job, they keep things in confidence and they won't tell your parents if you don't want them to. It's best honestly. You don't want to ignore it.

[Donkey]

I want to but i just feel really embarrassed
Trust me: it's absolutely fine! He will understand, I'm sure he/she's dealt with such things several times already. Remember, it's the best thing for you. So what, you get embaressed? The GP will understand, and it'll be fine afterwards. Whatever you need, it's better you talk to your GP. Seriously.

[lilpaintballer10]

Well i dont think im in as bad shape as i thought i was i measured my girth completely wrong and i just remeasured my penis from about a month ago and it grew 1/2 inch. Soo the actuall size is 5 1/4 inches erect and 4.5 inches in girth. I read a little tip online that said if u think your penis is small it may be just because yur looking down at it try looking in the mirror so i did it it really makes a difference. So i decided i would remeasure and it turns out it aint soo bad. I know its definately still goin to grow but do u guys think she would be satisfied with it now im still a lil embarrassed??

[curiousteen]

the same happened to me and come to find out she was wasnt a virgin and she wanted to have sex but i told her no.

[MisterAndrews]

If she really likes you she won't care about the size of your penis. If it really bothers her then maybe she's not worth having sex with. Go see a doctor if you're still concerned.... and maybe it would be a good idea to see a male one?

[iceyfresh]

date her and if she starts talking about sex tell her that you should wait a little or that your not ready for sex you shouldn't feel uncomfortable in a relationship you should feal happy.