confusion

[Φρανκομβριτ]

Okay, so I'm gay. I'm sure of it, it's not just a stage, I'm sure of it, whatever, evryone knows, I'm fine with it blah blah blah.

I am a somewhat religious person though, and I do believe that it is wrong to be gay, and I do believe what I'm doing is a sin. I think that it's bad for population and yeah, I don't agree with it.

I'm really confused. I mean, I'd love more than anything to be straight. It would make my life SO much easier, but unfortunantly I've been cursed with this illness, and I don't know what to do.


ARGH

[Zephyr]

Sweetie, being gay isn't an illness at all,
You can't help who you love or who you're attracted to.
We all need to be loved,
And if that means that you're homosexual then so be it.
Hell, I understand perfectly why any guy would be gay...
Guys are just flat out awesome and most girls are bitches XD

I'm not religioius at all hun,
But from what I understand about God,
He loves all of his children equally.
Nothing in the Bible specifically says that you're going to hell for being homosexual.
In the end it's going to be God judging you,
Not society.
And if I understand correctly,
As long as you repent for your sins,
You're good to go.

I guess the first step would be accepting your sexuality.
You can't make yourself be straight,
But you can try to accept who you are,
And know that God forgives.

[pontiacdriver]

I am far from an expert on religion, but I know that God doesn't make mistakes and that homosexuality is not a choice but rather a way a person is born no different that a straight person. If homosexuality is a choice, then I guess folks can make an argument about its moral merits. However, the reality based upon medical and psychological studies (I don't remember the specifics ones off the top of my head) is that homosexuality is hard wired into the brain of the person in question and that sexuality is not something that is chosen as it is inate. Sexualitydoesn't not come to the forefront until the person becomes sexually mature which is when the inate preference of the person is no longer dormant. I am sure that you have known for a while about your sexual preference, and the fact remains is that it is a part of you no different than your hair colour, skin tone, or genetic makeup.

With all that being said what can be a sin is if you are reckless with your body and are not careful about how you use it (the same can also apply to straight people as well). As long as you are in a loving relationship and share your body as a reflection of that love, then what you are doing is not wrong. As for the whole population thing the reality is that homosexuals are becoming parents (albeit through adoption) and provide a great service to society as a whole by providing loving and stable homes to kids who would not have otherwise had them. Basically, you can still be a parent and be gay, and there is no need to think that you cannot carry on your family name somehow.

I have noticed in your avatar that you have a Greek flag and that your user name is in Greek Cyrillic. My point in raising Greece here is that homosexuality was something that was not condemned in ancient Greece, and it is believed that some of the great philosophers such as Socrates might have even been gay based upon the writing of Plato. Basically, homosexuality is nothing new and it does not somehow condemn you to a life of obscurity.

In short, you are a perfectly normal person, and your homosexuality might put you in the minority, but being part of a minority does not equate evilness or badness. Simply put, you are approaching life differently than most people out there which is fine as there are many paths to the same goal. Don't be so hard on yourself as you are fine, and don't try to change something that is fundamentally an integral part of your being. As long as you are a good person, respect yourself, and are responsible with your body, then you are far from being a sinner.

[JoshDude]

There is nothing wrong with being gay. Im not religious, but as said by Zephyr, God loves all, and forgives all. Even if your religion does not agree with homosexuallity, God will still love you equally.

[Jagador]

Just because your gay doesn't mean your completely disgracing your religion. If you are gay, try to be proud of what you are no matter what people say. Many believe that people are becoming gay because the population is overflowing, which i believe is true but it is only a myth. Just like how people think that we are born gay or we only are curious. But if someone knows he is gay, then he is gay and there is no changing that. Regarding your religion... there are so many religion fanatics that are all religion crazy and will put you down for what you are, ignore them and keep believing in your religion.

[AllThatIsLeft]

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