confusing... Is now

[djvous]

well, I'll introduce myself first. I'm Ashley, 14 and live in the UK, and i have this odd experience...

Basicly, I thought i was gay about half a year ago, and decided to try it, spent 3 months with a boy, then we kinda split up... I went back to girls had 2 great relationships, And Now i want to "try" boys again...

Somebody Help!!!

[JoshDude]

You may be bisexual. Other than that, you might be bi-curious.

BTW: Welcome to VT, My name is Josh.

[Requin]

Now no offence to the dude above, but i don't beleive in 'bi-curious' as an orientation.
It doesn't really mean anything so...
You could be bisexual. You have to like boys physically and emotionally to be gay. And since you have gone out with girls shows that you may not be gay, but it depends on what terms you went out with them.
Did you go out with them because you thought you had to? Or that you fancied them?
Either way it's too early to tell yet as hormones are raging in your body and is messing up your emotions and feelings so...we can't tell yet.

[BlackenedSilver]

I think Bi-curious can be an orientation in your teens while you still figure things out, but as soon as puberty is over.. then thats when you need to decide which of the 3 you want to be.

But other than that I agree with Requin, You could be Bi.
Because it sounds like you have an emotional and physical attraction to Guys, (Or you wold have been with that boy for 3 months) But also to grls since you have had a few girlfriends. I think the best thing to do now is just go out and try everything and figure what you want to do in time.
Remember your only 14, you have alot of time ahead of you and dont have to decide right now, Take your time and make sure you make the right decision to make you happy. :D

Hope you figure everything out. x

[Zan0ra]

bi-curios next! - why am I so hyper tonight :s ok a real answer would be this... I would say its puberty making you think your gay "it does a good job doesn't it :P" since your only 14 you have to let these things take time but on average I would say you are bi-curios. Oh yeah and remember your sexuality doesn't change who you are only who you like.

[Donkey]

Just wait til you are finished with puberty and select the one you like the most. You're probably bi.

[byee]

Now no offence to the dude above, but i don't beleive in 'bi-curious' as an orientation.
It doesn't really mean anything so...
You could be bisexual. You have to like boys physically and emotionally to be gay. And since you have gone out with girls shows that you may not be gay, but it depends on what terms you went out with them.
Did you go out with them because you thought you had to? Or that you fancied them?
Either way it's too early to tell yet as hormones are raging in your body and is messing up your emotions and feelings so...we can't tell yet.


This response reminds me why I like and respect Joe. I completely agree that 'bisexually curious' is nothing more than a description of arousal! Bravo, Joe!

I think you've got the 'curious' part right. But, your enjoying parts of both relationships doesn't mean you can determine how much of it is actually emotional and how much is sexual/arousal. So, remembering, that experiments continue until you have enough data to confirm a result, your continued involvement with people gives you the opportunity to clarify and understand what you're attracted to and why.