Ahhhhh!!

[BlackenedSilver]

Yesterday, My Boyfriend broke up with me. He did it by text while I was in statistics.
It crushed me, totally and utterly, I let someone into my heart and they just break it.
He did it because he was working with my dad (Knew was a bad idea from the start) and he made a big mistake. (Long story short, he could have cost my dad alot of money)
So eventhough my dad didnt tell me what happened because he didnt want it to come between us, My ex-bf came to the conclusion that My dad wouldnt want us together.
I was talking to him last night as well.. and he was on about suicide and how worthless he is and he wouldnt take any of my advice to go see someone.(Eventhough I was still completely pissed, I tried my best to help him)

But now, He told my friend that he wants me back. But Im just totally not sure, I love him but he crushed me. I trusted him not to hurt me for a not really important reason, but he did. But he was so amazing when I was with him.
So now im going out with him tomorrow for a wander somewhere and thats when he is going to do it.

What do you think of it? and do you think I should get back with him?
Any advice is needed and appreciated!

Thanks you in advance.
Sorry its so long.

[DaretoFallup]

Well Leigh, heres my advice, you love him, but he crushed you. All relationships have their bad spots, but if you love him, and he really does want to get back together u should.

He said that your father may not want you two to be together. Your father seems to not have told you, because he doesnt want to hurt you. Your fatherseems to be okay with you two staying together, soooo.

thats what i've got to say

[BlackenedSilver]

Thanks chelsea, Im seeing him tonight and am gonna talk to him then.

Though I am still confused. :confused:

[Random_oso06]

ok for one thing that's a terrible way to brake with someone and second you should be cautiousness with him if you get back together you won't know if he will brake up with you i think you should test him but then that would make things worse so ya talking with him is the best solution

[BlackenedSilver]

I went out with him.

He explained himself and asked me back. I said "I dont think I can, I want to say yes but you really hurt me"

The he spoke about why a bit more. Then, I basically said Maybe in time, then there was an awkward silence.

So what did I do, I bailed. I made up some excuse about my gran and grandad being around and left.
Now I cant help thinking about, what would have happened if I would have stayed.
But Ive decided Im going to convince him to go to the halloween party on thursday and talk to him then.. see how I feel.

Good idea or bad?

[Avalikia]

I think it's a good idea. It sounds to me like he didn't really think it through when he broke up with you; he probably wasn't thinking clearly anyway. After he took the time to think about it, he regretted it and that is why he wants you back. Now, whether you can or want to come to terms with the pain this has caused you and whether you want a boyfriend that has dumped you without thinking about it first is entirely up to you. But I do believe that he's sincere.

[byee]

Well, there are many very noncomplimentary words one could legitmately use to describe a guy who breaks up with his chica with a text message.

Your skepticisim is very understanding, he really hurt you, and unnecessarly so. Relationships end, but it's the way it's done that matters most, and says the most, too.

I don't think you wussed out here, I think you said what you needed to in order to protect yourself, and that's OK. You also explained yourself, and now you need to wait and see what his (behavioral) response is. He now knows what you're feeling and expecting. Let's see if he can follow thru with more responsive, mature behavior.

To err (on his part) is human, part of being about 16, and (sadly) being a guy. However, when all that is brought to attention, it then becomes his responsibility to actually change. If he can, and you atill have feelings for him, then it might be safer for you to reengage. If he cannot, then you'd be wise to protect your heart by moving on.

Take it slow, see how he responds.

[BlackenedSilver]

Thanks for your help. Im actually glad I did what I did. Eventhough I miss him so much, My anger for him is slowly dying down. He text m this morning saying that he hated seeing me like that (I was really upset and crying when I said no) an that we needed to talk for longer. So we are going to take everything slow, and talk in a week or so.

Thanks.. Leigh x