How to comfort a friend

[Lennonism]

I need help comforting a friend. She's going through a rough time, well, her whole life has been rough. Her family is poor, her Dad left her, she used to be picked on at school, and I found at recently that some of her friends secretly blame her for a lot of drama at our school (Which, it may be her fault, but I don't care). Also, her cousin shot himself/herself recently, so she was pretty torn up about that.

I'm usually just the guy that makes people laugh, but I want to help comfort her, too. I can't ever think of anything to say to her besides "It'll be alright", which, while true, doesn't help some people. What can I do to help?

[byee]

Sometimes, actions speak louder than words, maybe just being her friend and being with her will be the best thing you can do. When she's ready to talk, she will. Until then, maybe just be a friend.

[The Batman]

The best thing to do is to act like nothings happening. Just keep treating her like your friend and don't change that. Keep being the funny one and just don't try and bring attention to her problems.

[pontiacdriver]

Your situation is super rough, and, sadly, there is no easy answer. I reckon the best thing you can do right now is simply provide a shoulder on which she can lean and just listen to her vent. If she feels like laughing, then you can always crack a joke, but there might be times when doing so is not appropriate as listening might be the best thing to do. I reckon you can bring her by your house once in a while to hang out with your family so that she can have a change of scenery. Also, try to get her mind off her problems by getting her involved in something productive so that she won't always think about her late cousin or school problems. For example, if there is a school club or volunteer organization in the area you can join, then that would be a good way to keep her mind off the pain through which she is going. Finally, I would talk to your parents to see if they have any ideas on what can be done.

[Random_oso06]

wow ya your problem is a tricky one and ya i think it is best to make her feel welcome when she's sad or mad then she throwing a tantrum and finally stops and sees that you didn't leave it maybe make her day because she will know that someone is there to listen and isn't that what mostly what anybody wants