Help?

[curiousashley87]

Ummm okay I know this might sound lame and all but I need some questions answered so here it goes.
First off it feels good to be back here because I have been busy.
My first question is thus: Well you see my older sister (21) and I have shared a room since I was six years old and I've enjoyed all the fun we've had, but recently I've noticed that she has been watching more when I am changing or when I get dressed after a shower, even to the point of stopping her own dressing/changing. Is what she is doing wrong in watching me change while I am only in my undergarments and watching me dress while I am nude or partially nude? How can I address this to her without causing any trouble?

My second question is: I've recently come to walking around in only my panties when no one else is around or with my friends, yet when my sister found out she got really mad even though I've seen her do it before. Why is it right for her but wrong for me? Help me answer these questions and if this is in the wrong forum, move it please and thank you.

[byee]

1) Your sister obviously has some curiosity about your body/development, so she's satisfying that by looking at you and checking you out. If you're uncomfortable with this, just tell her that her looking at you is making you uncomfortable, and also try to be more private about your changing, find some privacy to do it, maybe when she's not in the room, or by asking her to please leave.

2) It's hard to tell why she'd react to your doing something she does. Given her issues with your development (and developing sexuality), maybe it's part of #1 above, she's coming to terms with your coming of age. Again, when she reacts you might nicely tell her you do not appreciate her comments or judgements.

[pontiacdriver]

I completely agree with the post above, and I am sure that your sister is just coming to terms with your growth.

Point 1) I am sure that in her mind you are still the little 6 year old who is completely innocent and who should know nothing about sex or development. I am sure that you have recently started puberty, and it is probably really hard for your sister to accept the fact that you are becoming a woman like her. She is probably checking you out just to see where you are in terms of growing. As the post above said, just tell your sister that you feel uncomfortable with her looking at you while you are undressing as it makes it seem like their is something wrong with you. I would soften the blow by saying that if you have any questions that she would be the first person to whom you would speak.

Point 2) As for walking around in just your panties, your sister is probably already having a hard enough time accepting the fact that you are starting to become sexually mature. I am sure the thing that is pushing her over the edge is that you are starting to be just like her in that you are admiring your physique and have no qualms to show it off like your sister. To your sister you should always be the little kid, and the whole idea that you could have sexual feelings or want to show off your body is too much for her to handle. Again, I would talk to your sister and let her know that you are growing up and that you are only doing what she did when she was your age. I reckon your sister deeply cares about you, and she probably does not want to see you get into sexual activity too young or want people to view you as some sort of object. As a result, you need to tell your sister that you will be responsible with your sexuality and that you will never let yourself be violated. I suppose that walking around in your panties around other girls is all right, but I would avoid doing so if there are males around as doing so would really send the wrong message.