Crushes

[Trickster]

Im not sure exactly where this would go. I thought it kinda in between here and realationships. move it if its wrong. thank you

There is this guy and well im not sure about him. Im bi and he is to i think. He says he likes girls a but more.

He said he had a boyfriend to me and said no he doesnt to everyone else( he acted like this boy he was with was his bf when im near. The boy hates it)He said he doesnt want to go out with me, he says im weird( everyone thinks so, and i know i am. The fun kinda werid =P), thinks i try to talk to him, and hides when i walk past and i dont even see him, says im too quiet ( im only quiet around people i dont know), and once at a football game we were both at with our friends (we have some of the same friends) and he asked where i went. and etc probably more i dnt know about. I dont even like him he not my type and im not feeling it, i dont see us together. and i dont talk anything to him, all i say when my friends say "what about you and him, you think you two can be a couple?" i say no he not my type. I dont say anything else.

Im wondering why he keeps saying this stuff. Its really confusing me and my friends are confused too they dont know exactly what to do. What do you think it is.:confused:

[george]

I'm sad to say this but he really might not like you as anything more than a friend. But if you want to know FOR SURE if he likes your or not, you could try asking him out to the movies maybe. Try asking your friends that hang out with him too ask you, like if he ever talks about you or anything.

[rsc4life]

It seems like he just wants to be friends-ish...

[byee]

Who knows why he says this? You might ask him.

But, to me, the more relevant q is why do you care? You said you don't like him, he's not your type. So, regardless of his intentions, if the feelings aren't there for you, you might do best to not spend too much time or energy on this.

One of the ways we can inoculate ourselves to the (sometimes) harsh realities of life and interpersonal craziness is to take control of as many of these situations as we can. So, the first step would be to decide what your feelings/thoughts are about any particular person or situation FIRST, then decide on a course of action based on that assessment, rather than wonder why someone might be doing something that involves you, and deciding what to do after you (try) to determine why they're doing it. Proactive Vs. Reactive.

[Trickster]

Who knows why he says this? You might ask him.

But, to me, the more relevant q is why do you care?
To be honest having half knowing something drives me crazy. I like to know alot and if i hear 1+1=... then imma be up all nite trying to figure it out thats why im stressing. (just an example)
Thanks i needed that. It helped tons:D. I was gonna wait for him to comfront me because im giving obvious signs i dont like him. He started this BS so he can end it cuz it not really bothering me, it was just confusing me is all.

[djvous]

Friendlyness can be very easy to depict as crushes, Trust me, been there done that, come home and had a breakdown :( but yer, i wish you the best of luck with him though