Falling for a taken

[HappyChewy]

Theres this guy and i was really good mates with him and we live like 5 mins from each other so we started to go round each others houses like twice a week or so but he had a gf. we started getting closer and closer and we evently hooked up..i felt really bad and made him tell his gf..she was really pissed and made up that we couldnt have anything to do with each other..otherwise she would dump him. this tore us apart and we started having fights..i ignored him for 4 weeks and now he told his gf that he didnt want the rules anymore and that he was gonna be friends with me no matter what and she had to stay out of our relationship..i saw him today at his house and i have feelings for him again and i dnt no what to do..i cant tell him coz that would make it akward but im really confused coz i want this to work this time but im so in love with him...

please help me!!!

[rsc4life]

Alright. Don't tell him that you love him, do something much much easier. Engage him in conversation. Say hello, talk about school, re-acquaint yourself with him. I think it is quite easy, just work your way up to it.

[byee]

I'm not really sure what your point was in forcing him to tell his g/f about your hook up. Guilt? A forced confession by one guilty party doesn't erase what happened, nor does it change the situation (that you have feelings for eachother), it only complicates things, as you now see.

I think the issue is your boyfriend's. He has to make a choice here, b'twn you and his 'official' g/f. And you have to be willing to accept his decision, as well as his g/f's mistrust of you.

Different people have different standards of what's OK in a relationship, and for a lot of people, that includes havng friends of either gender eventhough they might be 'taken'. However, when you feel romantically about someone and have crossed that line by 'hooking up', it';s hard to go back, esp. when the g/f knows of your transgression.

Encourage him to make a choice here, as difficult as that might be for you.

[HappyChewy]

The point with making him tell his gf was that i felt really bad and i couldnt see her everyday and keep lieing to her.
He already made his choice n her chose her. But now he just wants to be friends but i dont see how thats gonna work out..beacause with yesterday you could feel the connection between us..

[byee]

The point with making him tell his gf was that i felt really bad and i couldnt see her everyday and keep lieing to her.
He already made his choice n her chose her. But now he just wants to be friends but i dont see how thats gonna work out..beacause with yesterday you could feel the connection between us..

Right, guilt. I think if he's chosen her, then you need to respect that choice by having good boundaries here. Keep your feelings to your self, and behave as if he's taken. With time, maybe that will change, but for now, take some emotional distance, and if you cannot, stay away.