I hate this...

[androoface]

There are multiple things going on right now and like, i dont know what to do. Its really depressing me more than I am already.

My mother is in the hospital, she has something wrong with her lungs and she cant breathe. My little brother and I are really worried because she might have to be on this thing that will breathe for her because she cant breathe for herself. They say its a really bad case of bronchitis or something. It's really scary because i lost my father a couple years ago. he had pancreatic cancer and his liver burst.

Also, my girlfriend. She has been acting weird ever since we got in a fight about her being with her ex when i wasnt around. We had come to an agreement before about it and then she had turned it around on me and told me that i was being controlling and stuff, so she ended up breaking up with me. We worked things out and we're back together, but things seem different, not in a good way.

And on top of everything, I only have like one friend IRL and ive been trying to get him to come hang out with me becuse he's the only person i can connect with and talk to about things, besides my mom but shes in the hospital.

All this stuff sucks, and i just want someone to talk to..

[Hyper]

Well you can't talk here

But you can type!

But on a serious tone..

I can't really think of much to say but be there for your mom and little brother. As much as it might suck your in the toughest spot here as you also have to take care of your brother and yourself and be there for your mom

Talk to your girlfriend if things don't work out and don't feel right, they aren't right and theres no reason in keeping them.

And get together with your friend talk to him about this, will make you feel better, and hopefully he/she will be there for you

But as a sidenote we're pretty much always here for you ( as we got nothing better to do xD )

[Mzor203]

You have a lot going on in your life right now... this is a tough spot you're in, and the worst part is that you didn't do anything to bring it upon yourself! I think the first thing you've got to address is that, no matter what happens over the next while,you are going to have to stay strong, as you have your brother to take care of, and you can give your mom strength if you show her that you can be strong yourself.

Now, first I'll address your mom's sickness. I have little experience with any diseases related to the lungs, but when I was young my mom had pneumonia really bad for about a month, but she pulled through. She's in the doctors' hands now, but you can help by showing her that you can be strong, praying for her (or whatever you would do), and watching over your brother. She needs to not have her mind on but recovery, no stress from worrying about you two, etc.

As for your girlfriend, I think you need to have a long talk with her about how she feels about your relationship, how you can mend this difference that has resulted between you two, and how you can start spending more time together. It would be nice if you could have your girlfriend as someone to help you through this time, so I think you need to figure out how to mend things between you two.

You say you have only one friend... this may not seem like much, but if he's a good friend, he can be an even greater help than multiple friends in the way that you only really have to divulge things, trust information to, and etc. to a single friend who you already trust. This is not to say that you shouldn't try to get more friends, but if this is hard for you, you can build a really great supportive foundation for yourself with your best friend and girlfriend.

I hope you have good luck in this time of your life, and I sincerely hope that your mother gets better and makes a full recovery. Good luck!

[byee]

First, welcome! I'm glad you found us. I am Sam.

There is a lot going on for you, and most of it sounds (unfortunately) not so good. You need to get some good things going in your life, you need some supports and some sense of stability. Focus on ways you can get that into your life, maybe some things like clubs, activities, etc. New connections and a few good distractions sound in order here!

I think the over arching issue is one of loss for you. Your dad, your g/f, and now, the realization that mom isn't well are all really sacry and stressful. There's nothing in life more devastating than loss, and you've had many very significant ones, all the people who matter the most to you.

People can deal with this, but they need to connect with others for that support and reassurance. If that's not available to you, or there aren't enough supports, you should try to get them, and as many as you can.

And eventhough this is just a forum in the internet, feel free to type to us. It's not the same as a warm embrace, but it's another form of support nonetheless.

Keep me posted.