Is he using me?

[Dave]

Well, i asked my childhood friend to let me "play" like we used to do whe we were kids (no anal, just oral), and i have aske him twice, and only just once he has asked me, so i had tell him that he didn't need to do anything with me, but i'll really have wanted that he would like, at least give me hug...I am going to stop this kind of relationship when he ask me for another job...
This last time, i gave him a blowjob while he was watching straigh porn, and i feel so bad for that, i have 2 questions about this problem (Note: Aside from this, our friendship it's still normal and will stay as it is)

1) Is he just using my wants to help himself while watching porn?

2) I always spit out every 1 minute, and he doesn't let me give him a full blowjob so i doesn't drink the semen, but, even if we haven't had sex before, it is a posibility of me getting a STD?

PS: Please move to the right board if this sin't the correct one, please.

[george]

1. Well he MIGHT but then you might want to think about how when people are horny, they'll change their minds about things so he MIGHT be but you would have to find that out yourself, like maybe ask him to give you a blowjob or something like that. If it gets to the point where HES asking you to give him a blowjob, he maybe would be taking advantage of you.

2. Yes it is but its not very probable because there could still be cum or like precum on his dick when your giving him a blowjob and it could still be in your mouth. But I'm sure your friend doesn't have an STD seeing as how if he did, there would be evidence.

If you really wanna be sure not to get an STD, you can always buy condoms made for oral sex.

[Neverender]

1. he might be, or hes just trying to get a better orgasm.

2. yes, but only if he has a STD, if neither of you have one, neither of you can catch one from one another.

[byee]

1) You'd have to really ask him to know for sure what his thoughts about all this are, but IMNSHO, based on your description, I wouldn't exactly say he's in love with you. What's going on doesn't sound like an expression of intimacy. People who are into the other person, people who have sex with them b/c of the feelings they have for them typically look at them at some point during sex, they're not looking at other images. I would say he's enjoying the b/j while fantasizing about whatever it is he's watching.

2) You CAN get an STI from oral sex, even if he doesn't ejaculate in your mouth. Anytime a penis comes into contact with your mouth, penis, or anus, AND they're infected, you can, too.

[Oblivion]

1) Is he just using my wants to help himself while watching porn?Well, why do you want to do it? So it feels good. He wants it, because it feels good. I don't really see how it's possible to use you, since you are both doing it based on what you want.

2) I always spit out every 1 minute, and he doesn't let me give him a full blowjob so i doesn't drink the semen, but, even if we haven't had sex before, it is a posibility of me getting a STD? Yes, you can. If you know he isn't infected, then you can't.

[Trickster]

1) i think he's not really using you. You are kinda using him. He cant get a proper erection if he doesnt have something to turn him on. SO in a way your using eachother. Youre using him to do a oral sex. and he's using you to give him that. BUT you asked him to try something. And you did it. If he asks you after that then its taking advantage. I think he was doing u a favor while helping himself. Youre both kinda even.

2) You cant really cuz STD dont pop outta no where. HE doesnt want u to catch anything just being extra careful. Youre were usign caution thats good.

[Dave]

We are both clean, but still I was just asking to know if anything could happen, also, I believe I cannot get anything else if we are clean, right?

We both decided that I won’t drank the semen, because I don’t like it and he wasn’t feeling very well doing so…Also, I spit out the saliva every 1 minute, and I wash my mouth with alcohol-free mouth-wash.

[Oblivion]

If neither of you have a sexual disease, it is impossible for you to contract it from one another.

[pontiacdriver]

Well, i asked my childhood friend to let me "play" like we used to do whe we were kids (no anal, just oral), and i have aske him twice, and only just once he has asked me, so i had tell him that he didn't need to do anything with me, but i'll really have wanted that he would like, at least give me hug...I am going to stop this kind of relationship when he ask me for another job...
This last time, i gave him a blowjob while he was watching straigh porn, and i feel so bad for that, i have 2 questions about this problem (Note: Aside from this, our friendship it's still normal and will stay as it is)

1) Is he just using my wants to help himself while watching porn?

2) I always spit out every 1 minute, and he doesn't let me give him a full blowjob so i doesn't drink the semen, but, even if we haven't had sex before, it is a posibility of me getting a STD?

PS: Please move to the right board if this sin't the correct one, please.

Question 1) With your initiating sexual contact with your friend it is only natural that he is going to feel comfortable asking you to perform oral sex on him as he probably feels that you enjoy it for you to have asked him about it in the first place. If you don't want to do blow jobs on your friend anymore, then tell him that you wish to discontinue it and leave it at that. However, you do need to keep in mind that sexual activity unleashes very powerful feelings that a difficult to control, and sexual feelings are not like an "on/off" switch. Despite your statement above that your relationship with this guy is "normal" the reality is that once sexual contact entered the equation things have changed between you both. What happens with some guys who experiment is that one guy could develop an emotional attachment to the other, and there is always a chance that while you simply viewed the blowjobs as a cheap thrill your friend could view it as something a lot more serious to the point of you two being more than friends. As a result, you need to handle this situation very delicately and make it clear that your desire to stop doing blowjobs on your friend is not a rejection of him as a person.

Question 2) STDs do not appear out of a vacuum, and assuming that your friend is being truthful about his virginity, then it is unlikely that you both would transmit an infection to each other.

[Dubs]

2. Yes it is but its not very probable because there could still be cum or like precum on his dick when your giving him a blowjob and it could still be in your mouth. But I'm sure your friend doesn't have an STD seeing as how if he did, there would be evidence.


Wrong!

Some stds like Aids might not even be ''functional'' yet, even though it might be dormecent. They can still pass to you.

[Dave]

Well, we have had a blood inspection on the past 8 months, and we were clear...So i trust him in saying that he is pure!

[Oblivion]

STD= Sexually Transmitted Disease

AIDS= Acquired immune deficiency syndrome or acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS or Aids) is a set of symptoms and infections resulting from the damage to the human immune system caused by the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). [www.wikipedia.org]

[mr.sexy_bomb]

but 1 thing is that u love him which is y u want him 2 hug u but does he love u back

[The Batman]

I wouldn't really call it love. Maybe you just have strong feelings for him but I think you just need to just tell him that if all he's looking for is sexual gratification he should go find it else where, but if he does want the relationship to grow from more than just casual sex than he should let you know.