im afraid i'm turning into her

[ShatteredWings]

wow

i've been yelling and screaming as much as she does.


Everything i hate.......
im glad i ccant hurt him.

how can i stop, before i hurt the poor guy. he's only six, i.. ican't put him thorugh it,its bad enough she does it, and when dads home he'll do it too.


i'm sorry

how can i make it stop, in my self.
sorry for being such a hypocrate

[JoshDude]

I dont know much about the situation.
Are you talking about your mom and how she screams at your younger brother?
If you are talking about your parents hurting you brother? You need to stop them.

Sorry I dont really know the situation, can you explain things more? So I can help?

[ShatteredWings]

My mom is verbaly abusive to all of us.

i have temper problems.

i'm turning into her.

i haven't hit him. but i'm afraid i might at some point.

i don't think i could live with myself if i did that.

fuck what they say, i love thoes boys, and i want to be able to be a good big sister and help and be there

[Gumleaf]

a lot of people think they will pick up the "bad elements" of their parents personalities. but what you have to remember is, that you might have the same genes, but you are your own person and have the choice of whether you will turn into that type of person or not. just because your mum is the way she is, doesn't mean that you have to go down the same track too.

[ShatteredWings]

i know this.

But, i'm already seeing it in myself


question not obvous? eh.. chalk it up to posting at six am..
anyways, how can i, well, STOP THIS. im scared

[ssgliberty]

i beleave u can stop u r a good person and good stuff happens to good people

[Gumleaf]

its all about how committed you are to not be like her. you have the choice gywn. you can choose not to be like her.

[Avalikia]

It's hard not to follow your parents bad example not only because you learn their bad habits, but also because that means you don't see the good ways of handling the same situations. Your parents are probably the most influential people in your lives, and you naturally pick up a lot of their behavior, for better or for worse.

It really helps if you conciously look for people who set a better example, and notice what they do when they're frustrated, angry, etc. And if you find someone who doesn't seem to ever react with the same feelings as your parents, ask them why. (I guarantee the answer to that question will be very good!) Take what you learn from all this and try to apply it to yourself.

If you mess up and yell at your brother notice that you've made a mistake but don't beat yourself up about it, apologise to him, try to make it up to him, and recommit yourself to do better the next time. Remember that you're not doing these things because you're a bad person, you're doing them because you've essentially been taught your entire life to do them and you're working on improving. If this matters to you enough that you're willing to put in the effort, you will eventually reach a point where you're naturally inclined to be better.