Love for girlfriend turning more physical than emotional?

[jjmcray]

This is going to sound so ridiculous when you read it, but whatever...

So I was with my girlfriend today and we were just chillin, hanging out at the student union and relaxing on the couches, and she starts leaning against me, putting her head on my shoulder and stuff, and I realized I was getting an erection... That has never happened to me before with her, and I'm afraid. I'm afraid because I do not want to start viewing her as a sex object or something. I want my love for her to be emotional and because of her personality, not because I just want to "get some ass"...

Anyone ever had this kind of problem? I know this probably sounds so stupid...

[Mzor203]

Just because you got an erection when she did that doesn't mean you are going to start using her. By making this post saying you are scared that might happen, you show that you care about her. I don't think you'll end up using her in any way, it's just hormones at work, causing contact between you two to result in you getting an erection.

It'll be fine, don't worry.

[JoshDude]

Just because you got an erection when she did that doesn't mean you are going to start using her. By making this post saying you are scared that might happen, you show that you care about her. I don't think you'll end up using her in any way, it's just hormones at work, causing contact between you two to result in you getting an erection.

It'll be fine, don't worry.

^^ Correct. Its not wrong when you think about her this way, its just your hormones doing what they do best.

[Oblivion]

Just because you got an erection when she did that doesn't mean you are going to start using her. By making this post saying you are scared that might happen, you show that you care about her. I don't think you'll end up using her in any way, it's just hormones at work, causing contact between you two to result in you getting an erection.

It'll be fine, don't worry.

Agreed
You can't control when your body gets an erection, and when she snuggles up against you, it makes you think about sex. There's nothing you can do, except continue to love her for her, and not use her.

[byee]

It's biology at work here. Often, we spend so much time talking about the risks and inadvisability of impulsive sex that we forget that sex itself is a natural desire that's triggered by things beyond our control. What we CAN (and maybe should) control is how to deal with those urges. But the biology (the erection) is hard wired into us.

Being in a nice relationship with a nice girl who you like and likes you, and is snuggling up close are pretty good (and entirely healthy) triggers for sexual arousal. Your ability to recgonize this happening, as well as your understanding that there's more to your attraction than this would suggest that you've got some pretty good judgement there which you can effectively use to control that urge.

[jjmcray]

OK, thank you all for your help, I appreciate it.
I would just hate to get an erection and have her see it and think wrongly of me, ya know...
I'll just bring a jacket with me and put it on my lap or something.

[Medical Kid]

oh dont worry man, you can never truley fall in love for someone unless you are just a lil bit attracted to them, plus if she sees, who knows? she may think it means you find her very attractive, good luck